Nancy Posted September 20, 1999 Share Posted September 20, 1999 So, I've been dating this guy, he's wonderful. Sensitive, smart, good-looking, everything you could want. We can talk so easily. The other night he tells me that in college he experimented with another guy. They gave each other oral sex. It happened once. What do you think? Should I continue to see him or just end it right here because I feel like a guy should be pretty darn comfortable with his sexuality for me to get serious with him. Who wants to get married and have their husband wake up one day and leave you for Frank or Joe? Not me! Help! Link to post Share on other sites
Magellica Posted September 20, 1999 Share Posted September 20, 1999 So, I've been dating this guy, he's wonderful. Sensitive, smart, good-looking, everything you could want. We can talk so easily. The other night he tells me that in college he experimented with another guy. They gave each other oral sex. It happened once. What do you think? Should I continue to see him or just end it right here because I feel like a guy should be pretty darn comfortable with his sexuality for me to get serious with him. Who wants to get married and have their husband wake up one day and leave you for Frank or Joe? Not me! Help! At least a third of all people have experimented with same sex relations during their adolescence/young adulthood. Only 6-10 percent of people actually go on to lead a lesbian, or bisexual adulthood. Many married heterosexuals experimented with same sex relationships in their past. College is a time for trying new things, this includes exploring different sexual orientation. Just because your guy experimented with gay sex in the past does not mean that he has any questions about his orientation now. Considering he is dating you now I think he discovered it was not for him. Ask him about his orientation and if he's straight then believe him, you have nothing to worry about. It's better than he explored that part of his sexuality young and discovered it was not for him than if he discovered it when he was forty and married with kids. If he's as wonderful as you make him sound then him telling you was a way of getting more intimate with you and you should be happy that he is that comfortable discussing things with you. Don't let past indescretions get in the way of what could turn out to be a wonderful relationship. I hope that helps, Magellica Link to post Share on other sites
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