dgiirl Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 A virtual coworker who lives many miles away from you and you've only physically met once, but talked many times over the phone for work, is coming to visit your city with a group of his guy friends and suggests multiple times that we meet up for brunch. You have nothing better to do, and he seems like a nice guy, so you meet up with him and his friends. He comes up to greet you, and it's one of those awkward moments where you're not sure if he's gonna hug you or not, so you just say "Hi" with a wave and smile. After brunch the same thing kinda happens. Then you're surrounded by a whole group of guys, talking amongst themselves and with you. Then the coworker grabs your attention and goes to shake your hand, so you put out your hand and then he takes his other hand and puts it on the back of your hand and says something like "Glad you came". He's also asked several times over the phone and once during brunch when I'll be coming back to his city for work and jokes about me moving there. Just friendly? Slightly interested? What if I'm not interested? Link to post Share on other sites
Rosalind Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 it means he likes you, silly Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 I agree. And if you aren't interested in him, just casually say, It was nice seeing you. Next time I'd love it if you met my boyfriend...(little white lie...)He'll figure it out asap and back off from you. Link to post Share on other sites
Chloe89 Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 it seems like he realli likes you. if you're not interested, i would be careful bc it seems more than hes just "interested" in you... Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 He likes you, especially with the back of the hand. That handshake always gets some attention, along with touch on shoulder while shaking. I'm jealous now, no darth spud for you. (just kidding ) Link to post Share on other sites
Author dgiirl Posted May 23, 2006 Author Share Posted May 23, 2006 eeek, if that's the case then I'm really flattered but besides all the pratical issues of us living very far away, him being divorced (which isnt a problem) with kids and I will never move to another city again for a guy, I just dont see him that way. He's already emailed me some friendly chitchat. I donno what to do. I want to be friendly, I just dont want to be put in the place where I have to reject him. And telling white lies wont work. I'm not very good at it, plus my office is really really small and the truth would eventually get back to him. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 This was something I did to brush off some women's advances. Delayed silent treatment (wait a few hours/days to reply)Talk to them and ask them you sensed something and want to confirm it (like what you said, flattered but not interested)Brush it off, go NC/LCTrue honesty, as in I'm not interested and put him in the friend bucket with severe limitations and lines. Link to post Share on other sites
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