panthera_leo Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 Ok so we broke up 3 months ago. Its been NC for most of the time apart from me calling him about a month after the break up. He said on the phone that he'd arrange to pick his stuff up from my house and i said ok... i hinted for him to do it soon so i could just get on with things. 2 months later.... nothing. Why wont he pick up his damn stuff... its doing my head in! Im expecting him to call and its frickin annoying. Im in the middle of some very important University exams at the moment, so im not in the position to talk to him. Do you think i should contact him after these exams so that he can get his stuff or leave him to contact me about it. I cant be waiting around like this! Link to post Share on other sites
la_ant Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 Give him one week to pick it up and if he doesn't, throw everything away. Me Link to post Share on other sites
visotech Posted May 21, 2006 Share Posted May 21, 2006 When we broke up she came by and took her stuff, but she did forget a few things. I held on to a pair of her sweat pants for a couple weeks, i thought to myself just in case we ever did loose touch I could use them as a way to see her. That was my hopeful side, just hoping for a second chance, then I realized I had to give up and move on, so I returned them to her. Just the other day I found a top of hers in my closet, I returned it the same day - If im ever going to get over her I can't hang on to her and her things. I don't know if that makes sense in your situation, but it may for others. Link to post Share on other sites
chocolate_boy Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 Your nicer than me, EVERYTHING of hers still at my place went in the trash. Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 You obviously want to get this over with. And im thinking you could probably focus on other things better. -You can give him an ultimatium.. stuff out certain date.. has to go bye bye I think you dont wish to do that because part of you still likes him What happened to me was. I was living with someone. We had a fight and she took my keys away. The cops promised me they would get my stuff back. Then it came down to her reconciling with me but she refused to let me have my stuff back. In the end she moved took items of mine and no claims she doesnt have them. Im pretty messed up over her and everything still almost 2 years later. I would reccommend giving back everything. And for thos that have exes refusing to give items back.. go over with the cops while they are still where you can find them. If I could find this womans whereabouts.. Id sue her for my property And maybe that is one of the last things I will do before I leave western society...... Link to post Share on other sites
In Sync Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 Ok so we broke up 3 months ago. Its been NC for most of the time apart from me calling him about a month after the break up. He said on the phone that he'd arrange to pick his stuff up from my house and i said ok... i hinted for him to do it soon so i could just get on with things. 2 months later.... nothing. Why wont he pick up his damn stuff... its doing my head in! Im expecting him to call and its frickin annoying. Im in the middle of some very important University exams at the moment, so im not in the position to talk to him. Do you think i should contact him after these exams so that he can get his stuff or leave him to contact me about it. I cant be waiting around like this! Here's what I think..right now you are in the midst of exams and tht tends to cause stress understandaly so. As a way to avoid what you need to focus on you are using his stuff as avoidance to a bigger issue..your exam. I mean what difference does it make hether he collects his stuff. Why would you need to contact him, and create more anxiety for yourself after you've completed your exam? It easier to just pack his stuff up and donate it. Done and over with. And if he contacts you for it after this much time..uh too bad. He's not barking up your tree for his things now so perhaps it's not important enough to him...so why make his things important to you. Link to post Share on other sites
GB111 Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 la ant has it right. Give him a week and chuck it. i didn't even give my ex a week. I just chucked it. Link to post Share on other sites
chica Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 I gave him a deadline and put my foot down. Its been almost a year now, and I just found out about a month ago that he is having a child with his new g/f (an old "friend" of mine). It has taken getting that news and moving forward enough for me to really go through the house and find every little thing that should no longer be here. There is now a big box of stuff which I will drop off to him sisters tomorrow. Don't let him hold you ransom because he isn't ready to let go. chica Link to post Share on other sites
Big_A Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 I am in a similar spot. My ex has a job where she travels and she has been spending the weekends with the new bf, so her belongings are all still here. She was going to pick them up this weekend and canceled at the last moment. I told her to stay away from me and not get her stuff until after my exams, because I am tired of having my game busted in school. After my exams I'm going to give her an ultimatum to retrieve her stuff or I’m having a garage sale. Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 One time my ex told me "If you get your stuff you will never talk to me again" Link to post Share on other sites
Author panthera_leo Posted May 22, 2006 Author Share Posted May 22, 2006 Thanx for all of your responses. Its tricky because he left behind a £700 suit... so i cant exactly throw that away. I put it in my brothers wardrobe to try and forget about it!! He was adamant that he wanted to be friends... so maybe by leaving his stuff its a way of him to make contact and be my "friend". Great. Dr Strangelove your right, i dont want to be nasty. Thats the last thing i want. I think giving him an ultimatum will be a little harsh. Am i being stupid? Eventually i do hope to be his friend...but just not yet. In Sync, yes i am very stressed at this moment...my emotions are all over th place because of these damn exams, however, i have got through the majority of them, i have just one left so the stress is easing off. The reason why i'v started thinking about this is because when i go home i just want to be able to get on with my life, i was hoping that while i was at my university town, he would pick his stuff up...but he hasn't. He definately wants it back... it costs £700! It feels like he's holding me ransom. I dont understand why its all grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!! AND he's been talking to my best friend and my mum. This is seriously delaying the moving on process. Link to post Share on other sites
justagirliegirl Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 Pack it up in a box and mail it to him. Problem solved. Link to post Share on other sites
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