Wife separating...I want it to work out.

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Well here is my situation, I have been married for 6 years to my wife and we married young I was 21 and she was 19 and we had a daughter soon after, my daughter is 5 now. Anyways my wife has separated herself from me and only views me as my daughters dad. She says that she is leaving the door open/has not given up completely on me but wants to concentrate on herself and her career and does not want to concentrate on the relationship or even really care to try to reconcile at this point in time, and tells me I just need to be a friend and support what she does and I need to concentrate on myself. What makes this even more difficult is that I am living out of state from my family due to me joining the military. I joined the military and all this started happening she tells me that she has been slowly pulling herself away from me emotionally for the past year or two and that she warned me that I was losing her but I did not do anything to fix the relationship. Now I am trying to change/reconcile, and she is telling me it is too late and she needs her space and that the more I pursue her and want to try and fix the situation it is pushing her away and closing the door for a future oppurtunity. Do I just say OK and try and be her friend and not her husband which is very difficult...everytime I try to talk to her about us and fixing the relationship she gets very irritated. I have hope that we will work out but what makes this difficult is that I am stuck in a different state for 4 years and she is concentrating on her career in another state and making a separate life for her self with out me. I guess I am just looking for some insight/direction or hope that its going to work out.