meloni Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 Do you think a guy should give up clubbing once you are in a commited relationship? I personally dont go clubbing so i dont know what goes on.. But my guy goes almost every weekend... Should I be worried? Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 He shouldn't give it up as long as you get to go with him. Has he not asked you to along with him? Is he going to these clubs with other friends and without you? Then that might be something to be concerned about. Link to post Share on other sites
ronnieromance Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 Ya, on one hand I would say if he's going without you, you may want to be worried. On the other, a meat market like a club is never going to yield a meeting that will evolve into a spiritual awakening of a relationship. On a related, but all together different note, you should stop using the term "clubbing" as it sounds ridiculous. Furthermore, you should immediately cut any and all ties to anyone who uses the implecated phrase. -R- Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 Those poor little seals. He does this every weekend? Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 Being in a relationship does not mean you should stop doing things you enjoy! If he goes clubbing with his friends it is fine as long as you do not have doubts on what he is doing there! You have to still socialise with your friends even when you are in a relationship - It is not healthy living in each others pockets! Link to post Share on other sites
MadDog Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 My friends and I rarely get to hang out because we're normally so busy. Whenever we do hang out, we end up going to a club most of the time. If I were to get a girlfriend, I don't think I would stop hanging out with my friends just because she didn't like to go to the club. What's the harm if I'm spending way more than 75% of my time with her? Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 This is just IMO... I have a thing where I don't go anywhere w/alcohol, unless I am with a group of people I know, or w/my SO. This just cuts down on the "where were you and what were you doing" convos, plus, it cuts down the chances of getting drunk and doing something stupid. It's just a respect I have for SO. He does the same for me Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 you wouldnt go and drink alcohol or go clubbing by yourself would you? I think a healthy relationship is based on respect and trust - How can you say you have that if you are not allowed to go out for the night without getting the third degree? Link to post Share on other sites
barfool Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 Being in a relationship does not mean you should stop doing things you enjoy! If he goes clubbing with his friends it is fine as long as you do not have doubts on what he is doing there! You have to still socialise with your friends even when you are in a relationship - It is not healthy living in each others pockets! I love you Lishy! Woohoo rationality! Link to post Share on other sites
ronnieromance Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 you wouldnt go and drink alcohol or go clubbing by yourself would you? For sure. I meet more women that way. I think a healthy relationship is based on respect and trust - How can you say you have that if you are not allowed to go out for the night without getting the third degree? THis is absolutely true, but a lot of peoples' ideas about what relationship boundaries are, fall into the category of chattle. Just listen to some of the ramblings about "My SO did this. My SO did that." -R- Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 If it's something he did before, his habits haven't changed, and you're welcome to go, then no, he shouldn't stop. If he's messing around on you out there, well, that's the behavior that's a problem, not the actual going to a club with his friends. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 Those poor little seals. He does this every weekend? Just saw this. Awesome. Link to post Share on other sites
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