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ahotmess Posted August 26, 2006 Share Posted August 26, 2006 I'd like to offer my opinion about the topic of this thread, "What attracts a MM to another woman." L--O--V--E. Love is what frequently attracts people to each other, married or not. Many times the H or W do not love their spouse any longer, and they fall in love with another. Interesting that no one has mentioned this, simple as it is. LOVE? It did progress to that level. But what was the initial attraction? MM and I talked about this.... bottom line.... he was horney. Can I say that on here? Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted August 26, 2006 Share Posted August 26, 2006 LOVE? It did progress to that level. But what was the initial attraction? MM and I talked about this.... bottom line.... he was horney. Can I say that on here? I think this is the reason in many cases...horny... Also, the fact that MM/MW usually enjoy the attention and pats on the back they get from the OW/OM, normally without all the obligations that a marriage entails. Somehow, reality of everyday life with the same person will, at times, lead to boredom for some folks. Depends on their committment level. This determines if they actually will entertain the idea of cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted August 26, 2006 Share Posted August 26, 2006 P.S. I'd like to offer my opinion about the topic of this thread, "What attracts a MM to another woman." L--O--V--E. Love is what frequently attracts people to each other, married or not. Many times the H or W do not love their spouse any longer, and they fall in love with another. Interesting that no one has mentioned this, simple as it is. Love isn't what attracts people, attraction always comes before love. Love is something that you build from the foundation of initial attraction. There is always a reason that you love another person, and you can't know those reasons until you know the person. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 26, 2006 Share Posted August 26, 2006 Seems like you are really bad at reading signals. How overbearing and flirty were you that he had to make a complaint? Girl, get yourself a man who's not taken already! Rolling on the floor literally -with laughter! Now thats what I call entertainment. This guy is absolutley comical. Hey Ridingthebulls, have you ever thought of getting into stand-up comedy?? Link to post Share on other sites
TheSilentType Posted August 27, 2006 Share Posted August 27, 2006 I think this is the reason in many cases...horny... all excuses aside, this is what it boils down. well said. Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid_guy Posted August 27, 2006 Share Posted August 27, 2006 I think this is the reason in many cases...horny... The only way "horny" might be a reason is if someone doesn't have at least one hand. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 27, 2006 Share Posted August 27, 2006 Originally Posted by elmejor L--O--V--E. Love is what frequently attracts people to each other, married or not. Many times the H or W do not love their spouse any longer, and they fall in love with another. Interesting that no one has mentioned this, simple as it is. You seem to forget that most men can easily separate sex and love. Ofcourse some feelings are involved, emotional attachment. Emotional feelings, lust and sexual desire can easily be mistaken for feeling inlove. Maybe some situations are about love, but it's mostly about getting needs met that aren't being met inside the marriage. Loving the attention and living a fantasy, with just all good stuff and no daily crap. Link to post Share on other sites
elmejor Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 Love isn't what attracts people, attraction always comes before love. Love is something that you build from the foundation of initial attraction. There is always a reason that you love another person, and you can't know those reasons until you know the person. Excellent points, blind otter. You smart! You are right, I should have said that while looking for love, or persuing love, a person will be attracted to someone other than his/her spouse. And why? Because they do not get it--"it" being love at home. Link to post Share on other sites
elmejor Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 You seem to forget that most men can easily separate sex and love. Ofcourse some feelings are involved, emotional attachment. Emotional feelings, lust and sexual desire can easily be mistaken for feeling inlove. Maybe some situations are about love, but it's mostly about getting needs met that aren't being met inside the marriage. Loving the attention and living a fantasy, with just all good stuff and no daily crap. LOL--amazing that you know all about "most" men. You must really get around! Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid_guy Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 LOL--amazing that you know all about "most" men. You must really get around! Or maybe she talks to us and listens? Or reads the posts here with an open mind? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 Since I'm not particularly pretty and the physical attraction came later, my xMM told me that it was my spirit and my 'being' that he felt massive attraction to, I think that he can be himself knowing that I won't judge him made him fall in love with me and that happened, the physical chemistry just came naturally. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 31, 2006 Share Posted August 31, 2006 That's easy. You don't NEED him for anything. MM's are attracted to women who are self-sufficient, sexy, alluring and all they need is sex. My MM said the reason he was attracted in the first place was because I take care of myself (I'm 47 and we met climbing a mountain) and he stays attracted to me because I'm independant and I don't need him for anything. just my .02 Link to post Share on other sites
simona Posted September 2, 2006 Share Posted September 2, 2006 Married men are attracted for a number of reasons: 1) Perhaps you are attractive, and friendly 2 ) Easy going and non judgemental 3) see things that they do not see in their wives 4) or just fun loving This is just based on my personal experience, BTW I am neither OW nor BS. Could be that you appear naive too, because I have been told by few men that they find me very exotic and naive. Some men take things for face value. Link to post Share on other sites
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