Chump64 Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 A bit off topic... Alfagirl, did you end up staying with your cheating BF who had a wife and kids in another state? You sounded unhappy about your situation in a recent post, so in light of your post here that dittos strong attitudes about unhappy OW or betrayed wives who stay, it made me curious about what you ended up doing. Link to post Share on other sites
alfagrl Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 Hi chump64, You sounded unhappy about your situation in a recent post Yeah- unhappy doesn't even begin to describe it. Mortified, outraged, disgusted....NO those don't even seem to be strong enough. But to answer your question, No. I didn't stay with him. I thought this topic was WHAT ATTRACTS MM TO OW. Don't want to hijack Kittens thread...Sorry kitten. Link to post Share on other sites
alfagrl Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 What is wrong with his statement is that he generalized like it is EVERY WOMAN'S position! When in fact, there are MANY who do not even come close to his perception! I did think it was a little harsh, but didn't read it that way. ps. I called riding she..sorry if your a he. Link to post Share on other sites
ridingthebulls Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 Bye the way, TOYS work wonders as well, we don't have to stroke a batteries EGO Did you find out about those toys before or after you made the choice to start f***ing another woman's husband? If you were serving your needs elsewhere, why latch onto a married man? And since when does it take f***ing a married man to gain life experience? WTF kind of idiotic statement is that? Btw, your particular situation is irrelevant... the majority of posts on here are made by gullible women who threw themselves into the situation.. If my post did not concern you, then you wouldn't be so upset and right away go on the offense. Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 What is it that attracts a MM to another woman? ky jelly and cats Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 Did you find out about those toys before or after you made the choice to start f***ing another woman's husband? If you were serving your needs elsewhere, why latch onto a married man? I have always been the type to place blame where it belongs... 99% of the time the blame belongs on the married man.. not the OW.. He is the one that is married and is breaking his vows..he is the one with the wife and kids.. She has made no vows and in my mind is more or leass a victim. I think she is a victim till the moment her eyes open to the garbage that a MM pulls on a married woman.. then she becomes part of the problem Link to post Share on other sites
ridingthebulls Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 I have always been the type to place blame where it belongs... 99% of the time the blame belongs on the married man.. not the OW.. He is the one that is married and is breaking his vows..he is the one with the wife and kids.. She has made no vows and in my mind is more or leass a victim. I think she is a victim till the moment her eyes open to the garbage that a MM pulls on a married woman.. then she becomes part of the problem IN a relationship, yes blame the MM 100% for breaking the commitment. But what kind of trash women would take a married man to begin with knowing full well the circumstances involved? She said it was to "serve her needs".. she was no victim. LOL... Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 IN a relationship, yes blame the MM 100% for breaking the commitment. But what kind of trash women would take a married man to begin with knowing full well the circumstances involved? She said it was to "serve her needs".. she was no victim. LOL... It isn't a contest of who is the more selfish of a person.. he is still to blame 99% .. if he doesn't cheat and break his vows then there is no affair Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 It isn't a contest of who is the more selfish of a person.. he is still to blame 99% .. if he doesn't cheat and break his vows then there is no affair Nah, it takes two to tango. If the potential OW had stepped back and refused to enter the A, he'd have no one to break his vows with. Both parties are equally culpable for the results. Link to post Share on other sites
RealityCheck Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 I have always been the type to place blame where it belongs... 99% of the time the blame belongs on the married man.. not the OW.. He is the one that is married and is breaking his vows..he is the one with the wife and kids.. She has made no vows and in my mind is more or leass a victim. I think she is a victim till the moment her eyes open to the garbage that a MM pulls on a married woman.. then she becomes part of the problem Yes, I agree 100% Link to post Share on other sites
UnknowingOW Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 Did you find out about those toys before or after you made the choice to start f***ing another woman's husband? If you were serving your needs elsewhere, why latch onto a married man? And since when does it take f***ing a married man to gain life experience? WTF kind of idiotic statement is that? Btw, your particular situation is irrelevant... the majority of posts on here are made by gullible women who threw themselves into the situation.. If my post did not concern you, then you wouldn't be so upset and right away go on the offense. In my defense, and some other's on the board, we were NOT told they were married...the MM lied. So, no we didn't choose to "blank" another wife's man. You sounds like someone who has been completely hurt. I understand why your words seem harsh. Link to post Share on other sites
RealityCheck Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 Did you find out about those toys before or after you made the choice to start f***ing another woman's husband? If you were serving your needs elsewhere, why latch onto a married man? And since when does it take f***ing a married man to gain life experience? WTF kind of idiotic statement is that? Btw, your particular situation is irrelevant... the majority of posts on here are made by gullible women who threw themselves into the situation.. If my post did not concern you, then you wouldn't be so upset and right away go on the offense. Would it excite you to know that Toys were prior, during and after the A!!! Anything in life, is CALLED experience! So who's the idiot!!! Your post was extremely judgemental and you generalized ALL women who are in A's. I am not on the offense, I am nutural! That would be non-judgemental which is more than what I can say about you! s*** happens in life, the good, bad and ugly. If it is your choice not to enter into something that is your right, but your attitude towards people who do something outside of "your thinking" hardly gives you the right to cast stones! Self Righteous is something I definately would not be proud of! Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 If my post did not concern you, then you wouldn't be so upset and right away go on the offense. Ridingthebulls***ter, if you've not noticed, we're all pretty close here, you attack one person's integrity = you attack us all. That is why we all go on the offense at your spewing venom here. I don't think that you have offered any answers to the OP's question, but only threw out insults. None of us appreciates it. As you can tell by some of the comments you've gotten, none of us here are doormats as you've suggested as dormats aren't offensive or defensive. All you have done is proven by your illogical statements how ignorant you really are. Folks, the question is what draws MM to the OW, not who's to blame which is kinda where this is now spearheading towards. In all honesty, it doesn't really matter who's to blame. What's done is done. We all need to focus on how to re-group our thoughts and minds to understand what happend and not travel the same painful path walking on barefoot. One poster said that its because we are open and friendly people who are good listeners. Yes, I agree with that. I also think that my MM was drawn to me because we just shared a lot of similarities. We were raised similarly, we went through similar life trials, etc. In that sense we really connected. I have not met one person who I could finish off my sentences and just knows me without my saying one single word. Most of the time I can do the same with him too. We also have the same sense of humour and express ourselves in very similar ways. It made it easy to understand each other. I guess that is why I was so shocked that he did a lot behind my back as I wouldn't have done that to the person I claim to love. I guess I didn't know him so well after all. I guess I've never been so wrong at reading someone or a situation and am sorely disappointed not only of the situation but at myself. Link to post Share on other sites
alfagrl Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 This thread started by asking us our opinion. We are all speculating based on our own expriences. Lets respect everyones opinion, popular or not. Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 Would it excite you to know that Toys were prior, during and after the A!!! Anything in life, is CALLED experience! So who's the idiot!!! Your post was extremely judgemental and you generalized ALL women who are in A's. I am not on the offense, I am nutural! That would be non-judgemental which is more than what I can say about you! s*** happens in life, the good, bad and ugly. If it is your choice not to enter into something that is your right, but your attitude towards people who do something outside of "your thinking" hardly gives you the right to cast stones! Self Righteous is something I definately would not be proud of! You go RC! You know, there are many people who say I will never cheat or never take back a man who's cheated, etc. Well, its the ones who say that that that end up cheating or take back a man who's cheated. Some people really just don't understand the word 'support' and think that is ok to go and throw insults at others. This thread started by asking us our opinion. We are all speculating based on our own expriences. Lets respect everyones opinion, popular or not. I disagree with you "let's respect everyone's opinion, popular or not" statement. Calling OWs/BSs doormats is not an opinion. Calling people naive and saying how people who makes particular decisions about their lives are living in denial is someone who clearly cannot identify with their situation, lack understanding and any opinion is made from ignorance... Since such is the case, its hard to respect it at all. Bulls***ter has not offered any valid opinions, but has just been here trying to stir the pot. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 RTB, do you walk on water on something? IN a relationship, yes blame the MM 100% for breaking the commitment. But what kind of trash women would take a married man to begin with knowing full well the circumstances involved? She said it was to "serve her needs".. she was no victim. LOL... Who are you to be calling someone trash?? You can't even state your opinion or disagreement without labeling someone. Are you that pure? Have you ever had a woman just for your own selfish needs? Have you ever taken something, anything that does not belong to you? Can you look in the mirror realistically without casting stones upon others you do not agree with? Do you have any married male friends or acquaintances that you know of who have had an A, and you still associate with them? Alfagrl This thread started by asking us our opinion. We are all speculating based on our own expriences. Lets respect everyones opinion, popular or not. Well that would be the adult thing to do. But apparently it doesn't always work that way when people who think their shyt don't stink start ridiculing others. We should all be agreeing to disagree. Not sitting in judgment of each other. Yes, this is off the thread, but its also pertinent to RTB's attitude. I was a MW who had an A with a MM. I didn't look for it, but it happened. The final result was that I was the one villified by almost an entire town, branded the town whore, while he never even skipped a beat. No one that I know of stopped talking to him. Its a guy thing. Its almost become acceptable that many or most men are going to cheat, but God forbid a woman does. She becomes a whore or "trash". You, RTB, throw that scarlett letter around like you are the be all and end all of mankind. Go peddle your self righteous attitude. Link to post Share on other sites
Chump64 Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 Bulls***ter has not offered any valid opinions, but has just been here trying to stir the pot. This is true with most of the brash, wannabe badass posters who show up at LS. They are usually deeply hurt people who only want to spread their vile misery among others, never to offer support. Almost uniformly, if you look at their posting histories, they don't share their own personal story (too proud to admit they've been hurt -- they only want to lash out to ease their own pain); they speak in hard black and white views; and the never have their PM ability activated. Does that tell you something? Yes, it tells you they are cowards. They are "flame-and-runners." They are best ignored. Link to post Share on other sites
ridingthebulls Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 This thread started by asking us our opinion. We are all speculating based on our own expriences. Lets respect everyones opinion, popular or not. Yes that would be the mature thing to do, but unfortunately most of the children on this board never grew up. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 Yes that would be the mature thing to do, but unfortunately most of the children on this board never grew up. Do you consider branding people "grown up"? Yes, we have now been branded "children" who don't know any better! Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 Do you consider branding people "grown up"? Yes, we have now been branded "children" who don't know any better! Sniff sniff, Peter... the gwown up's crashed the party at Never Never Land! Bulls***ter's is full of itself. Link to post Share on other sites
Chump64 Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 Art Critic, why do you assume that the OW is never a married woman? Link to post Share on other sites
RealityCheck Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 Yes that would be the mature thing to do, but unfortunately most of the children on this board never grew up. Oh for f*ck sakes!! It is obvious you love creating drama!! Your probably wacking off from all the feedback because people like you don't have a life considering you have all sorts of judgemental views and no experience whatsoever! Sit in your self righteous hole while the rest of us experience all of what life has to offer! Now people lets get back to the original post here and leave RTB to sit in his own s*** for thought! Link to post Share on other sites
ridingthebulls Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 Now people lets get back to the original post here Yes please do already. Experiencing all life has to offer does not equate f***ing a married men.. just saying.. that is a stupid rebuttal. Link to post Share on other sites
RealityCheck Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 I'm just trying to understand for my own benefit so please don't beat me with a stick for asking. What is it that attracts a MM to another woman? I am constantly being hit on by married men or men with fiances or in LTRs. More of the latter than the former, which is good, but I still view it as the same thing. I figure I must be doing something or there must be something about me that attracts men already in committed relationships. I was hoping you could provide some insight so that I can stop whatever it is that I'm doing. Ah yes, now where were we..... Link to post Share on other sites
Chump64 Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 Ego stroking with compliments, leaning into men to talk, body language, showing interest to a degree that might not be appropriate. You may not even be aware that you are doing this. Do you treat / talk to men the same way you treat / talk to women? Link to post Share on other sites
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