kindasortamaybe Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 My husband of over 20 years with whom i have 4 children is driving me crazy. He left 5 months ago, lives in an empty apartment. Spends time with me and the kids when he feels like it. Has told NO one he has left. Stays the night 2- 5 times a week here with us. Cant.wont talk about how he feels. Says he is unhappy, he drinks and works a LOT . Everyone tells me to let him go , and change the locks. I dont know how to walk away from him. I have been with him for over half my life. He is at best, a bad husband. He is indifferent to any of my needs. He is a very mediocre father. And can be verbally abusive to all of us. The thing is when he is"normal" we all like him. He can be funny and generous and likes to take all of us out to museums, for a meal on trips etc. But the "normal" times are less and less and now the kids arent even happy to see him. He wont talk about ANYTHING, and if he tries he gets mad and insults. He will not get counseling, i am going alone. Also i am looking into alanon and familes anonymous. I miss who he was and maybe could be , but i think most of the time i should just give up on him. Link to post Share on other sites
Victoria68 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Dear Kindasortamaby, How long is half of your life? It sounds like this guy not only has a drinking problem, but has problems in his work relationships and possibly w/ his drinking relationships. Problems that he knows is his fault, or too embarrassing to share with you...The reason why I think this is because my H. treated me like crap for months ..later I found out he was humiliated at work. Also if he's having problems w. drinking relationships..might not share that with you because he knows he shouldn't have that relationship to begin with...is he older/ younger?? Is he able to catch a few good lookin drunks? It's so hard having to deal with an unpleasant person. There are two kinds of depressed people, the kind who turn to their loved ones because they love them, and the kind that do not turn to loved ones, because they are too self centered to love others. Probably due to their need for instant gratification, and blame towards all but oneself. I'm here to talk sporatically throughout the day..it sucks not recieving responses on a board where people are sapposed to care. No responses= useless time wasted on board, venting to strangers. Link to post Share on other sites
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