joel Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 do any of u guys have the same problem as me or now of ppl who have the same problem as me-have a very hard hard time getting a date or getting a girl to go out with you. my profile 25 yr old just finished college in 2 yr diploma program in business m-previously i have asked plenty of girl out good 90% were asian chinese girl -all were NO's, busy or excuses, jsut plain no luck and no girls. online i dated this girl who is just avg looking a little chubby and so far i been asking her out and have been getting the excuse upon exuse of being busy with school and work. so i haven;t seen her or went out with her for 4 wks now. what do women even want now? maybe its a car- which i don;t have. maybe you have to be in the cool crowd and dress very trendy-which i'm not. i been lowing my standards -looks wise and so far-no luck still. are all girls out there looking for the better guy- nicer car, making and money making potential, what. seems asians guy have it harder than white guys. WM can be poor and doing crap jobs and still have a gf, while a AM -would not be able to gain a gf with crap jobs. my moms and my aunts are always tellin my sis and my single female cousins to date and marry rich guys. "go get a guy with high education and tons of money" "if he drives a bmw go after him and chase him",. everything is revolved around money and looks with em. makes it seem like i have neither-well maybe some looks -thats why i have no gf are girls these days that picky in who they date and have as a bf-so high high standards, and are girls in college that busy with school and work that they can't even date. since i'm chinese cbc i now everything is revolved around money, face, status and hihg education and more money. what do guy in HS do to land dates and girls when they have very little money and how do college guys do it. they say confidence , is it just that. it gotta be more than just confidence. who here as a asian or chinese cbc is having this same old problem, hard hard hard time just gettin a date. some girls hardly even now me and when i ask em out i get NO, or busy, others i have their nbumbers and they tell me they're not looking , or i get the i'm busy . it just sucks. at my age it so depressing when u see couples walking down the street who are younger than you and in relationships and dating. Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 The same CD on perpetual repeat mode... *yawn* Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted May 22, 2006 Share Posted May 22, 2006 The same CD on perpetual repeat mode... *yawn* yeah I agee Joel, I know it's hard, but maybe if you tried backing off for a while. Stop everything you've been doing to attract women (b/c obviously it hasn't been working...), regroup and then come back to the dating world. good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 do any of u guys have the same problem as me or now of ppl who have the same problem as me-have a very hard hard time getting a date or getting a girl to go out with you. my profile 25 yr old just finished college in 2 yr diploma program in business m-previously i have asked plenty of girl out good 90% were asian chinese girl -all were NO's, busy or excuses, jsut plain no luck and no girls. online i dated this girl who is just avg looking a little chubby and so far i been asking her out and have been getting the excuse upon exuse of being busy with school and work. so i haven;t seen her or went out with her for 4 wks now. what do women even want now? maybe its a car- which i don;t have. maybe you have to be in the cool crowd and dress very trendy-which i'm not. i been lowing my standards -looks wise and so far-no luck still. are all girls out there looking for the better guy- nicer car, making and money making potential, what. seems asians guy have it harder than white guys. WM can be poor and doing crap jobs and still have a gf, while a AM -would not be able to gain a gf with crap jobs. my moms and my aunts are always tellin my sis and my single female cousins to date and marry rich guys. "go get a guy with high education and tons of money" "if he drives a bmw go after him and chase him",. everything is revolved around money and looks with em. makes it seem like i have neither-well maybe some looks -thats why i have no gf are girls these days that picky in who they date and have as a bf-so high high standards, and are girls in college that busy with school and work that they can't even date. since i'm chinese cbc i now everything is revolved around money, face, status and hihg education and more money. what do guy in HS do to land dates and girls when they have very little money and how do college guys do it. they say confidence , is it just that. it gotta be more than just confidence. who here as a asian or chinese cbc is having this same old problem, hard hard hard time just gettin a date. some girls hardly even now me and when i ask em out i get NO, or busy, others i have their nbumbers and they tell me they're not looking , or i get the i'm busy . it just sucks. at my age it so depressing when u see couples walking down the street who are younger than you and in relationships and dating. try indo canadians Link to post Share on other sites
konfuzd Posted May 24, 2006 Share Posted May 24, 2006 First off, try to look at yourself as an individual, rather than an asian. You walk into every potential relationship with a losing attitude, so you are always going to end up a loser. Meeting the right person is about being in the right place at the right time with the right mindset. If you are consciously "lowering your standards" and thinking to yourself, "she's chubby, but she's the best I can do"... she will catch onto this and not want to be with you. Just because you've been rejected does not mean you have to settle. Trust me, I've gone through a ton of rejection, and it does get you down and out. In the end, being single is not all bad. Girls would much rather be with a broke-ass guy with no car, that makes her laugh and feel good about herself than some whiny punk, who she always has to pull out of the mental dumps. Smile, gain some confidence and things will turn around for you. Most importantly, ditch the self pity routine, it is a huge, huge, huge turn-off!!! Link to post Share on other sites
maxima888 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 dude, I'm sorry but having a car & money isn't what attract girls (some at least) I don't know what you look like or how tall are you but being asian doesn't mean you can't get a date. Trust me, looks are one thing and money is another but personality is 100%... You have to be confidence in yourself and that really shows. Most girls can see if your confidence in yourself or not. Sometimes it even helps to be a little cocky. You don't need to be brad pitt to do all this. Look around you, not every single guy that is with a girl is mr. stunning. You ask how do I know this? Because I, myself, is a prime example I'm not loaded or even close to it but I have enough to take a girl out to dinner, movie, and at least try to hold a decent conversation and make her laugh and be some what interested *HA Trust me man... its all about how you hold yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMonk Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 I think you're dating the wrong broads dude. I know if I started asking hippie chicks, urban chics, or attention whore chicks I'd get turned down real fast. But if I ask geeky girls, nerdy girls, book worm types I usually get a 70% chance of landing a couple dates or even blossom into a relationship. I don't know you, but there's something wrong, it's not how successful or hardworking you are, but it's something else. I don't knwo how your'e going about asking these girls, but you shoul dknow something. You can ask anyway you can, but if they don't like you "that much" they will ignore you. Link to post Share on other sites
Muzicman94 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 what do guy in HS do to land dates and girls when they have very little money and how do college guys do it. they say confidence , is it just that. it gotta be more than just confidence. who here as a asian or chinese cbc is having this same old problem, hard hard hard time just gettin a date. some girls hardly even now me and when i ask em out i get NO, or busy, others i have their nbumbers and they tell me they're not looking , or i get the i'm busy . it just sucks. at my age it so depressing when u see couples walking down the street who are younger than you and in relationships and dating. alright...im asian too...personally...i think its who the girl is...if the girl is snobby...probably will turn down anyone who doesnt have a ferrarri and doesnt have above average looks....find someone who pays more attention to ur potential as a boyfriend/girlfriend and personality...right and if ur askin out girls that hardly even know u...chances are...they're going to reject u...cuz well...they dunno wut kinda person u are...try gettin to be friends first and then ask...might make a difference...if they give u their numbers but they arent lookin for a boyfriend or wutever...it could just mean that they are interested...but not quite ready...so wait it out a bit....the "im busy" excuse...with that...well....keep an eye out when they say that...if thats all they say.."im busy"...and dont look like they care much...move on...if they say "i'd love to...but im busy then..." (something along those lines)...could mean they really are just busy that weekend or wutever...try askin if they could do it some other time...alright..final thing...if they say "im busy"...take a look at their body language...if they really seem sincerely sorry...hey u could still have a chance...hope this helps at least a little bit... Link to post Share on other sites
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