John Posted October 19, 2001 Share Posted October 19, 2001 Dear friends, my girlfriend asked me to think about having a 3some sexual experience, but I'm very confused. The weird thing is that the 3rd person is a man and he is gay. She says I should be more open-minded... I really love her, what should I do? Help me! John. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted October 19, 2001 Share Posted October 19, 2001 Don't get into that threesome stuff if it makes you uncomfortable. However, her interest in doing so could be a danger sign, a signal that she is getting bored with having sex with only you. Work on your technique and do some different things in the bedroom. This may at least forestall her desire for more advanced sexual adventures. Eventually, you will have to face the fact that your girl wants to experiment sexually and if you don't participate she will find others who will. Being in bed with a woman and a homosexual is not my idea of a wonderful evening. It may be that this is the beginning of the end of your relationship. It's sort of hard to get a request like that out of your mind. Link to post Share on other sites
John Posted October 19, 2001 Share Posted October 19, 2001 Thanks Tony, you are a real friend. I didn't imagined she could be bored of me...and of my sexual performances. I'll think about your words. Thanks again, John. Link to post Share on other sites
BeenThere Posted October 19, 2001 Share Posted October 19, 2001 Would you still be scratching your head in bewilderment if the 3rd person your girlfriend wanted to bring to your bed was another *woman*...or would you already be bragging about the adventure in your post? Just curious about how men in general feel about this? I was told that a 3some was every heterosexual man's ultimalte fantasy. Is this really true? And how would a man actually feel about his partner if she agreed to such a thing...even suggested it? Would you think less of her? Or would you worry that you were no longer capable of keeping her satisfied? Maybe as a female, I'm just way to jealous and possessive to even imagine such a thing...but I know that people with "old-fashioned" ideas like mine are quickly becoming the minority. (Of course, we're also spending a lot less money on shrinks and penicillin!) Can you give the females on this forum any insite to the male psyche when it comes to this particular subject? I've already question my own partner about his feelings on this one. Of course, he replys: "Are you kidding?...No way!" But since he was unarmed at the time, I think his answer was the only SAFE one! Come on guys! Can we get a little honesty here? Dear friends, my girlfriend asked me to think about having a 3some sexual experience, but I'm very confused. The weird thing is that the 3rd person is a man and he is gay. She says I should be more open-minded... I really love her, what should I do? Help me! John. Link to post Share on other sites
Ed Posted October 19, 2001 Share Posted October 19, 2001 From what you said in your post, you love your girlfriend and you are, apparently, uncomfortable with the idea of her being sexual with another partner, whether you are there or not. I think anybody who is in love and in an exclusive relationship (I assume you are) would feel the same way. It's one thing to fantasize about something like this, but entirely different to talk about wanting it to actually happen. You have to decide for yourself if this is something you want to pursue. You also have to decide how you feel about being with a girlfriend that wants to seriously discuss the possibility of going through with this. I think her comment about you being open-minded was inconsiderate. Telling someone they should be more open-minded is the same as telling them they are close-minded! When a so called open-minded person says that another person is close-minded because they don't think the same way, that so called open-minded person is not only close-minded themselves, they are also ignorant! Threesome or not, I would be leery of someone who thought of me or talked to me that way. Link to post Share on other sites
MercyRose Posted October 26, 2001 Share Posted October 26, 2001 My ex-boyfriend was like your gf, he wanted me with a woman. I was hurt he'd want to share. I mean if you love you wouldn't want the one you love to see you with someone else because it would hurt them. And if they love you they will not be able to see anyone else touching you. It sounds like she doesn't love you...I am sorry...I realized my ex didn't love me too and it hurt. Listen to your instincts and respect yourself. You deserve nothing less than the best. Link to post Share on other sites
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