aLizaboth Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 I have a problem... I met a guy about 3 weeks ago. Problem is I am afraid to sleep with him because I am married. To make a long story short... My husband wanted to have a threesome... not with another woman.... with another man. I agreed to it so that I could please my husband. I just have a terrible feeling about all of this. I am married and I feel that marriage is sacred... but I will do anything to please my man. So I met this guy at work who fits the prototype of what my husband had in mind. I don't think that the guy at work will fall for it because he is a total jock and probably doesn't swing the gay way. So I asked him out just to get to know him a little better. We went on a few dates. My husband doesn't know about it. He knows that there is a man in question but he doesn't know that I am seeing him now behind his back. So last weekend I was out with the other man at a dance club and things were getting a little heavy... I was doing all of this just to make sure this is what the husband wants... I didn't know how to bring it up to the new guy. We we heavily making out and i thought i better stop it all and went to the ladies room. He followed shortly after and started taking my panties off. I was a little itchy down there.... well i mean EXTREMELY itchy and didn't know what to do... so i stopped it all. I went home and saw that i was red down there.... what the hell happened? Am I allergic to this guy? So now I can't have the threesome with him because he makes my crotch itchy. But I like him so much and i think that my husband would like him too... I just don't think the new guy will swing that way.... what do I do??? Am I cheating??? WHy am I itchy down there??? Could it be herpes? If that's the case.... then I think my husband is the one cheating.... I've only been with him. HELP! Anyone else been in this situation? Link to post Share on other sites
Javelin Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 Ugh, you and your husband need some serious help. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 emmm .. errrrrrr .... Sorry I cant help you with this! Good luck tho! Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 Crabs maybe? Or maybe your allergic to his seman. This post gave me a sick feeling in my stomach Your husband is gay but you will do anything to turn him on to stay w/him? You go out behind his back to find guys to sleep w/the 2 of you? This just all sounds creepy to me This thing you have going on w/your gay hubby does not sound healthy at all!! Bringing people into your bed also brings the risk of STDs. Sounds to me like you should leave this relationship. This is not normal!! Link to post Share on other sites
phyrespryte Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 Go to a doctor so you can be sure about what's going on. And I wouldn't ask the guy to have a threesome. If your husband wants a 3-some he probably has someone lined up, so stop looking for a guy because you are cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
crazy_grl Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 1. see your doctor, because none of us can diagnose you 2. go to personal counseling to figure out why you're accepting this screwed-up agreement even though it's not what you want 3. go to marriage counseling to fix your marriage (if that's what you want) Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 Other have talked to you about your physical problem so I won't. I think you are certainly cheating on your husband. If I understand correctly it is that your husband wanted a threesome with another guy. He did not want you to go to bars, have dates behind his back and let this guy screw you when he was not involved. The fact that you have not been honest with your husband and are seeing this guy behind your husband's back is clearly cheating. Why is it that you refuse to tell your husband what you are doing? The answer is that you know he would be very angry. If you do not tell him and you are screwing around with another man behind his back then you are certainly cheating. How would you feel if the roles were reversed? Say you said you were interested in a threesome with another woman. He then proceeds to go on dates with another woman behind your back and screws her at a bar? How would you feel? I am sorry but you are a classic example of a cheater. The fact you refuse to tell your husband the truth about what you are doing says it all. Why are you afraid to tell him the truth? Link to post Share on other sites
Alexandra Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 1. see your doctor, because none of us can diagnose you 2. go to personal counseling to figure out why you're accepting this screwed-up agreement even though it's not what you want 3. go to marriage counseling to fix your marriage (if that's what you want) Bravo. Perfectly said. That's just what you need to do aLizaboth because quite frankly "I was doing all of this just to make sure this is what the husband wants..." is a vast load of BS. Question is are you only feeding that to us here or to yourself too? And as I re-read to post this I just got a feeling this is not a genuine post. In fact, to me it sounds like a male writing it... Link to post Share on other sites
Javelin Posted May 24, 2006 Share Posted May 24, 2006 Again, seek serious help. (and I'm not trying to be funny) Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted May 24, 2006 Share Posted May 24, 2006 did she just ask "is it cheating" in the same post where she says she let some man follow her into the bathroom and remove her panties? please tell me I misread, pretty please? Link to post Share on other sites
ronnieromance Posted May 24, 2006 Share Posted May 24, 2006 No, you read it right. OP, I'd tell you you sign up here, but you'd definantely meet some freaks and maybe spread the itchy around. So I'm going to say, go here. -R- Link to post Share on other sites
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