Take Her Back?

[numsey]

To make a long story short my gf of 8 months left me on easter and went back to one of her exes. I started NC but she would still call me all the time. About 2 weeks ago he cheated on her and dumped her. Her family and friends all told her that she got what she deserved and left her on her own so she called me. The nice guy in me couldn't just cut her off so I comforted her, and tried to help her thru it. When she would call and say she was sitting at home alone I would go get her and take her somewhere so she could get out of the house. Things friends would do so she wouldnt be alone all the time. Even though I still have feelings for her I never let on that I did, I just kept everything friendly. The other night she asked me to come over and hang out with her because she has no urge to go out so I did. After alot of drinking we ended up in bed together but I stopped before anything happened. Now she is inviting me over to dinner and keeps hinting on us maybe getting back together. She's already burned me once and I dont know if I should trust her again. Should I try one more time and hope it was just her figuring what she wants in life (shes 19, I'm 26) or should I cut her off before she breaks my heart again?

[KittenMoon]

I'd say if she was a little older, she might have learned her lesson. But she's only 19, you two are at very different stages in life, and I think there's a high probability of her burning you again.

[cutie22387]

I'm 19 too and my (so called) boyfriend is 24. I hate when people play on the age thing. Age doesn't matter, but maturity does. She could do the same thing if you two were the same age if she was that immature. What I want to know is, did she tell you she was leaving you or did she just leave you high and dry?

 

I want to say, you are a good person. And it's so hard to just forget someone you care about. What you have to decide is whether you think she will ever do that again, and if she does, what will you do? Did you two have a good relationship before this happened? What do you want out of this relationship and what does she want?

[GB111]

Kitten is right. You'll get burned again. She's just too young to learn that lesson.

 

Another thought... If you can't go in to the relationship "full bore" than it's probably not worth doing. Trust is not so easily re-gained for most people. If you do go back, I'd advise taking it very slowly.

 

Good luck. Let us know how it goes!

 

GB

[dprelz]

I'd say if she was a little older, she might have learned her lesson. But she's only 19, you two are at very different stages in life, and I think there's a high probability of her burning you again.

 

I absolutely 100% agree, though I doubt it will be that easy for the poster to just say no

[Whitt]

If there are doubts for you about wanting to get back in the realtionship then you probably shouldn't. This is your instinct telling you not to get hurt again. It sounds like you are well on your way to recovery. If you want to, keep in touch with her and maybe when she's a little older things will look better.

[norajane]

Sounds like she's well on her way to a life of going from one man to another, with each guy having to pick up the pieces of her last relationship. Don't be a doormat - find someone who can love and appreciate you for who you are without all the psycho-drama.

[hmmansfield]

Do not take her back. You'll be the lesson she has to learn... you disrespect people, and you lose them. Move on to a woman closer to your age who has something real to offer.