jessssss Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 My bf and I have been having some "tiffs" lately and are working things out...he actually is up for a job and i'm very happy for him. drawback is he has to go across the country to california for training...leaving me at home...i'm jealous he gets to have the experience and at the same time since we've been having our tiffs lately i'm worried he'll find someone else and flirt...yeah, i sound stupid. i'll admit. i don't think he'd cheat on me, i really don't but everyone knows what happens when drunk girls get around drunk guys - no one thinks clearly. i know there will be some partying while he's there. now he's going in prob 2 weeks, how do i get myself prepared for thsi? i'm a definite worry wart. BAD...he has already made joking comments about me not having anyone over or doing anything with anyone-i would NEVER! not even put myself in a postion like that when he's gone. so kinda makes me feel better that he's even worried about me in that respect although he doesn't need to worry about that - him saying that should flatter me, right? but for some reason it makes me worry more.....i don't kow.... he gets in a distant place, only a week, never will happen again...who's to say he won't find some hot chic and they hit it off and it just be a california thing...someone please help me!! 'm going to drive myself crazy in these 2 weeks not to mention the week he's really gone!! Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 First of all, please don't drive yourself crazy over this. I'm sure that is easier said than done. I think becasue of these "tiffs" you all are having, its probably natural to feel a little worried about him going on this trip. However there should be some kind of trust there, tiffs or no tiffs. if he were to cheat theres not alot you can do to really prevent it. Has he offered for you to go along with him? or is that something thats not an option? Jade Link to post Share on other sites
Author jessssss Posted May 23, 2006 Author Share Posted May 23, 2006 not sure if it's really an option since it's a training/classes all day kinda thing...i just thought about taht as i typed my post earlier...i'm going ot look into it. i do have a week's vacation available!! but i would hate to go and be the one that caused him to not do well for the week and mess up his chances...you know, distract him. i just hope that there aren't any girls going and i'll be more comfortable...or any guys his age for that matter!! there is nothing i can do to keep him from cheating...just be myself and trust. if he's going to cheat he is going to find a way...most cheaters do. so i need to trust him...and not worry about other girls. easier said than done. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 I see things very black and white for the most part. If your that worried about him cheating, then obviously you don't trust him. If you don't trust him, then there is no reason for the 2 of you to be together. If you do trust him, then stop worrying about it. It's one thing to be a little nervous, and that is somewhat normal, but to obsess about it is very unhealthy. Maybe you just have some insecurities? Do you really think he would go out and party w/out you? I think that is something that should be established in the begining of a relationship. That cuts down on the chances of being like those who post things like "My girlfriend got drunk and cheated on me" or " I'm nervous because my boyfriend is going to a bachelor party". I wouldn't bug him about it though. You want to be as attractive to him as you can so he can't wait to get back to you! Tell him that when he returns, your going to greet him at the door w/a whipped cream bikini. That will give him something to think about while hes away!! Link to post Share on other sites
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