typical Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 In a relationship, when the guy is 100% sure that his girl is trustworthy and would never do anything wrong.....almost taking it for granted, what is the best way to bring him down a notch without being so obvious? Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 why would you want to bring him down a notch? don't you want a guy that trusts you? Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 In a relationship, when the guy is 100% sure that his girl is trustworthy and would never do anything wrong.....almost taking it for granted, what is the best way to bring him down a notch without being so obvious? Personally I don't think theres no such thing as 100%, more like 99%. Anyway, I would love a guy to trust me like that. You wouldn't believe the guys I have dated over the past few years who have major trust issues. Nothing that I had done to them, but things they carried over into a relationship with me. They got hurt from previous things but I had to end up paying for their suffering becasue they didn't trust me? Not! If theres no trust I don't usually hang around long especaily if I'm if I'm not the cause of their lack of trust. If you really wanted to bring them down a notch then, throw some doubt in their minds, that is sure to bring the down a notch. Are you looking to give them a dose of reality? Personally I would think that to be wrong. JMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Author typical Posted May 23, 2006 Author Share Posted May 23, 2006 It has occured to me that he is too smug. He trusts me 100% because I have NEVER given him a reason NOT too...I have always told the truth, honest, sincere....to the point to where he doesnt even seem to wonder AT ALL about me, my whereabouts, strange circumstances....NOTHING. He is a little too reassured...especially in light of recent events and it makes me sick. Good old predictable Typical who wouldnt do a thing wrong to hurt another because she is just a prude..... why would you want to bring him down a notch? don't you want a guy that trusts you? Never mind attacking the morality of what I am about to do, just give me some hints Link to post Share on other sites
ronnieromance Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 In a relationship, when the guy is 100% sure that his girl is trustworthy and would never do anything wrong.....almost taking it for granted, what is the best way to bring him down a notch without being so obvious? I don't know...this doesn't sount too healty as faras the relationship goes. I mean, that's a little evil, dontcha think? But if you must, put up a profile on wealthymen. Not only will it make him think you're fooling around on him, he'll think you're want a rich guy too and you might leave him. -R- Link to post Share on other sites
Author typical Posted May 23, 2006 Author Share Posted May 23, 2006 I don't know...this doesn't sount too healty as faras the relationship goes. I mean, that's a little evil, dontcha think? whatever, I could care less, he deserves it...trust me. so, anything else, Barring the internet?? We dont have access yet, so using the internet is fruitless...I am talking subtle here, not gyrating my pelvic regions at his best friend Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 whatever, I could care less, he deserves it...trust me. If he *deserves* it and whatever he has done is causing you this much angst then why are you with him? Why not just leave him? Why play any games? Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 Never mind attacking the morality of what I am about to do, just give me some hints You want some hints here ya go. I have a feeling this is going to do more harm than good. I'm not real sure why you're wanting to do this, I think its going to cause more problems than you really want, but if its drama you want. You say you are always where you are supossed to be? Then stopping being where you are supossed to be then. If he calls you, don't answer the phone right away. Let him wonder where you are. If he asks you where you were be vague. Log on to some porn, get your look on at hot men. Create you a profile on a "friend site". Say you're single looking for just "friends." You wanted some hints there ya go. I really think this will harm your relationship big time, If not, let us know how he reacts to you bringing him down a notch. Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 If he *deserves* it and whatever he has done is causing you this much angst then why are you with him? Why not just leave him? Why play any games? I agree. Then again some people do like drama wheather they want to admit it or not. Or some might feel they need their self worth validated in a relationship by seeking out to stir up something to to keep another on the edge etc. Makes them feel better about them selves I guess. The best way to "bring him down a notch", is to break up with him. That should speak volumes. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
Author typical Posted May 23, 2006 Author Share Posted May 23, 2006 If he *deserves* it and whatever he has done is causing you this much angst then why are you with him? Why not just leave him? Why play any games? Because why not? Its alot more fun to watch someone choke on the hell they created. We have reached an impasse. There is no way I can get out right now, its too difficult. So I may as well have my fun. He has become so sure of himself, so oblivious and so cocky that I would actually have to TELL him if I ever cheated on him Meanwhile, I am left agonizing over every little detail. Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 Because why not? Its alot more fun to watch someone choke on the hell they created. We have reached an impasse. There is no way I can get out right now, its too difficult. So I may as well have my fun. He has become so sure of himself, so oblivious and so cocky that I would actually have to TELL him if I ever cheated on him Meanwhile, I am left agonizing over every little detail. So you are willing to stoop to his level? What sort of message do you think that will send him? Why can't you *get out*? Come on... what happened here? Were you cheated on? Link to post Share on other sites
Author typical Posted May 23, 2006 Author Share Posted May 23, 2006 I agree. Then again some people do like drama wheather they want to admit it or not. Or some might feel they need their self worth validated in a relationship by seeking out to stir up something to to keep another on the edge etc. Makes them feel better about them selves I guess Yes, thats me, I like drama..... Lets be serious. THe guy is a jack ass that is too cocky and oblivious. Cant break up right now. Need to have the scales balanced. Its really that simple. I am not trying to validate s***. I am not a drama queen. I am just really really really fed up with his bulls***, his lies, him causing me pain. As I see it, he sees me as a permanent fixture in his life. So he doesnt need to try anymore. Hardly acknowledges me, constantly blocks me from thriving towards independance, looks through me, any attempt at making a conversations starts with "I dont want to fight" from his end. When I want to have a serious discussion with him, and I tell him it will take 2 minutes, he actually whips out his watch and says "okay, its 4:15p.m....at 4:17p.m. your 2 minutes are up...go" and in between these 2 minutes, watches TV the whole time I am trying to talk to him.. come on, doesnt he deserve a little knock down??? come on, you have to agree.... Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 "The hell he created"....... What kind of hell did he create? Why is it that you can't get out of this situation? Getting out seems to be more of a logical reason than what you're wanting to do. If he is so cocky as you say, why not just tell him his cockiness is getting on your nerves, and that he shouldn't be so sure of himself. Tell him to watch his back that him being so sure of himself might backfire one day. Just a thought. Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 Yes, thats me, I like drama..... save the drama for your mama sorry i had to get that out Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 "The hell he created"....... What kind of hell did he create? Why is it that you can't get out of this situation? Getting out seems to be more of a logical reason than what you're wanting to do. If he is so cocky as you say, why not just tell him his cockiness is getting on your nerves, and that he shouldn't be so sure of himself. Tell him to watch his back that him being so sure of himself might backfire one day. Just a thought. Exactly. And she's enabling it too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author typical Posted May 23, 2006 Author Share Posted May 23, 2006 save the drama for your mama sorry i had to get that out---NTB ...........wait....I dont have one....how about for LS?? Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 Yes, thats me, I like drama..... Lets be serious. THe guy is a jack ass that is too cocky and oblivious. Cant break up right now. Need to have the scales balanced. Its really that simple. I am not trying to validate s***. I am not a drama queen. I am just really really really fed up with his bulls***, his lies, him causing me pain. As I see it, he sees me as a permanent fixture in his life. So he doesnt need to try anymore. Hardly acknowledges me, constantly blocks me from thriving towards independance, looks through me, any attempt at making a conversations starts with "I dont want to fight" from his end. When I want to have a serious discussion with him, and I tell him it will take 2 minutes, he actually whips out his watch and says "okay, its 4:15p.m....at 4:17p.m. your 2 minutes are up...go" and in between these 2 minutes, watches TV the whole time I am trying to talk to him.. come on, doesnt he deserve a little knock down??? come on, you have to agree.... "Lets be serious" Actually I am serious. I have read your other posts before and there is nothing but drama. People have told you before to get out of the situation awhile back, and for whatever reason you refuse to. So yeah one has to think if someone stays in a situation they are not happy in then perhaps there is some drama they like holding on to. I'm not saying in all cases, but yes some. If you are truly tired of the bulls*** like ytou say then you would get out. Theres always a soultion to things, its just a matter of people finding the right solution and doing it. He doesn't keep you where you are, you keep yourself there becasue you choose too. I went back and read some others replys on this and you have been given a few things to try to 'bring him down a notch." Let us know what you try and how it works out. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
starlet Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 "The hell he created"....... What kind of hell did he create? Why is it that you can't get out of this situation? Getting out seems to be more of a logical reason than what you're wanting to do. If he is so cocky as you say, why not just tell him his cockiness is getting on your nerves, and that he shouldn't be so sure of himself. Tell him to watch his back that him being so sure of himself might backfire one day. Just a thought. i'm seconding this, i'm curious about it too. what exactly did he do that created this situation? is it just that he's oblivious and not attentive enough in your eyes, that you feel like he's taking you for granted? surely that doesn't seem like end of the world material, perhaps just tell him that his attitude bugs you and that his "two minute discussions" are not working for you. or is there something more behind the you "need to get out but can't" thing. Why do you need to? And why can't you? Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 This is to TYPICAL... What exactly are YOU getting out of this relationship? How are YOU benefiting? Link to post Share on other sites
Author typical Posted May 23, 2006 Author Share Posted May 23, 2006 If he is so cocky as you say, why not just tell him his cockiness is getting on your nerves, and that he shouldn't be so sure of himself. Tell him to watch his back that him being so sure of himself might backfire one day. Just a thought.---Pandoras box Okay, now we are getting somewhere!!! thanks! My problem is I am just too caring and kind. I dont know how to play games, but apparently, its needed in this circumstance.. Exactly. And she's enabling it too. Sorry smooch, I dont get it. Anyway, my relationship is a little like Alice in Wonderland meets Labyrinth. Nothing is EVER as it seems and I am TIRED of it. I was just seeking advice while I sit here seething and licking my wounds, but if it seems too wrong, simply bypass this post and leave me to lick in peace. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 If he is as cocky and sure of himself as you say, then no matter what you do or say to him, might not have a real effect on him anyway. How about letting him read your post on here, then see how he feels or what he has to say? What is it he did to make you feel like he created hell for you? Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 I was just seeking advice while I sit here seething and licking my wounds, but if it seems too wrong, simply bypass this post and leave me to lick in peace. dump that zero and get with the hero that's my advice Link to post Share on other sites
Author typical Posted May 23, 2006 Author Share Posted May 23, 2006 I have read your other posts before and there is nothing but drama. and so, who are you? The drama police? Those posts you speak of may be drama to you, but it is MY LIFE. Sorry I cant post something more uncomplicated like "I think my boyfriend watches porn, is he normal" I wish that was my only problem. So yeah one has to think if someone stays in a situation they are not happy in then perhaps there is some drama they like holding on to. So yes, people, we are all just robots that can turn off feelings at will. How about the fact that some of us out there simply dont know when to let go because they are hurt and confused? I guess that means we like drama. Do me a favor and piss off. I dont need your DRAMA right now. Find someone else to scold, master jade. Theres always a soultion to things, its just a matter of people finding the right solution and doing it. Well I am glad you have it all figured out. Maybe you could right a book about it. People, if it were that simple, if I felt like I was getting somewhere, I would have just talked to him about it in the first place and never would of found my way here. I am here because I have NO ONE. You are all my source of inspiration and my voice of reason. I come to you because I really am lost. I seek your guidance. I didnt expect this to be a hen picking session, I just wanted some ideas, thats all. If it bothers you, dont read it. Simple. Link to post Share on other sites
Author typical Posted May 23, 2006 Author Share Posted May 23, 2006 dump that zero and get with the hero that's my advice .......your silly! Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 Sorry smooch, I dont get it. You're allowing him to do whatever he is doing to you by being passive and nonconfrontational... hence your behaviour is *enabling* his. Link to post Share on other sites
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