Guest Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 I need someone's advice. I am in my mid 30s, have a beautiful gf, we've been dating for 4 years, we love each other, we were both married before and found eachother and strive to not make the same mistakes we've made before. My problem is that I get so crazy jealous that it sometimes consumes me. We've had arguements about it and it is the one thing that she says drives her crazy. I've been better about it for the past year or so but it has come close to breaking us up one time.Part of the problem is that she also gets jealous, wont let me go to lunch with guys at work because of the things that 'guys' talk about, would break up with me in a second if i ever went to a strip club-not that i have any desire whatsoever and other things like that, but all those things i gladly do or give up for her if it makes her feel more secure. . One issue is that 1 she is a beautiful girl and she can light up a room and guys are drawn to her. I know guys are going to hit on her and expect it to some degree, my problem is if I think she flirted a little and then the guy did or said something because of that. My next issue is the women around me. I've been told im a good looking guy, women flirt with me a lot, mostly women in relationships already and it drives me crazy because then I think my girl may be flirting with someone like these women do with me. I've started relationships with women that 'harmlessly' flirted with me and i know the danger it can start. If i found out my girl cheated on me it would not kill me, I would say its her loss and there would be 10 women waiting for me, but when i think about her doing something without me and i maybe thinking she's being overly flirtatious, it makes me nuts. What do I do? Link to post Share on other sites
ronnieromance Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 It's your ego that's bruised, not your heart. All I can say is you need to ind the source and rationalize your way through it. I'm not saying that there are no legit reasons to be jealous, but the scenarios you describe are literaly nothing. That's a problem. -R- Link to post Share on other sites
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