talizat Posted May 23, 2006 Share Posted May 23, 2006 Hi My bf and I went through a lot of rocky times. Me making mistakes after mistakes, him getting away from me.The result is that we basicaly broke up ( the "i need a break" thing). We are now working on our friendship before going any further (we were friends first, before love kicked in). Super hard for me, I though refuse any "sexual" thing between us now, I want to wait and see where we are going. He doesnt talk, not the type of guy who communicate about his feelings. Actually, things started to go wrong when he said he loved me. I really thought we were done (ready to send a "call it quit" email) and yesterday we had a very nice talk that he initiated . During this conversation he told he might follow his brother who got a new job.. I look the place up on a map and we find out it's a few hours away from my house (we're LDR). He seemed happy about it and I was too (ok no, i am super happy lol) Anyway. What do I do?! A couple weeks ago I requested a week end spent together as friends, to see how we are doing, and he said we could do that but wanted to wait a week see how we were doing as friends, I took the opportunity to give him tons of air during this week. My idea is to wait a week or so and see if he's still getting closer to me, if he's still coming back to me, and ask for a week end together, as friends. yes, no? My head is spinning but I dont want to get hurt again, advices!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author talizat Posted May 24, 2006 Author Share Posted May 24, 2006 Same thing today.. he was friendly, asked how my day was /lets keep it cool Link to post Share on other sites
Big_A Posted May 24, 2006 Share Posted May 24, 2006 How long has it been? If it is less then 3-6 months you a probably not ready to be friends. The real question is “What is you motivation?” are you secretly thinking that you will get back together? This is why I am avoiding my ex, I can’t seem to get the idea of us being together out of my head. If your motivation is really pure and you have discussed your motivation with friends that won’t let you speak b.s. to yourself, then you have to ask, “What is his motivation?” and wonder whether your helping or hurting one or both of you. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted May 24, 2006 Share Posted May 24, 2006 Hi My bf and I went through a lot of rocky times. Me making mistakes after mistakes, him getting away from me.The result is that we basicaly broke up ( the "i need a break" thing). We are now working on our friendship before going any further (we were friends first, before love kicked in). Super hard for me, I though refuse any "sexual" thing between us now, I want to wait and see where we are going. He doesnt talk, not the type of guy who communicate about his feelings. Actually, things started to go wrong when he said he loved me. I really thought we were done (ready to send a "call it quit" email) and yesterday we had a very nice talk that he initiated . During this conversation he told he might follow his brother who got a new job.. I look the place up on a map and we find out it's a few hours away from my house (we're LDR). He seemed happy about it and I was too (ok no, i am super happy lol) Anyway. What do I do?! A couple weeks ago I requested a week end spent together as friends, to see how we are doing, and he said we could do that but wanted to wait a week see how we were doing as friends, I took the opportunity to give him tons of air during this week. My idea is to wait a week or so and see if he's still getting closer to me, if he's still coming back to me, and ask for a week end together, as friends. yes, no? My head is spinning but I dont want to get hurt again, advices!! My head is spinning, at least. Take a deep breath, step back, and relax. You don't have to decide everything right this minute, you don't have to have a plan, you don't have to do anything. He knows you asked for some time together, and he'll let you know when he's ready. Let him surprise you with his plan...like he did with the move closer to where you live. Let him come to you. If he has a hard time talking about his feelings, he'll show you how he feels through actions rather than be able to tell you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author talizat Posted May 25, 2006 Author Share Posted May 25, 2006 Well we said we'd slow down, would put our feelings asside for now (right..) so yes, I am hoping to get him back. I though think that I should go away for a while, even if i really want to see what's gonna happen next. I am not sure what to do, we are together for 7 months. Link to post Share on other sites
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