cynthia77 Posted May 24, 2006 Share Posted May 24, 2006 I'm hoping somebody can offer me some insight to the old question - how do you know when you're in love? I'm having trouble differenciating 'being in love' and 'being comfortable' in a relationship. My current relationship has been a turbulent one and I often wonder if I'm hanging on solely for the sake of our unborn baby, the time invested and the fact that I'm 'comfortable' around my man. I still love saying sweet things to him to see him smile ... and do/buy things for him ... I love sex and am very attracted to him physically. However, I can't help but think I'm trying to 'force' myself to make it work. Since I found out about some lies (no need to go into detail), I haven't felt the same about him (our relationship in the beginning was that from a fairy tale). Could it be because I still have my guard up from what happened and will eventually get over it (he's doing tons to regain my trust) or could it be I've just lost feelings for him after I saw how easy it was for him to hurt me? Bottom line is - what do you feel inside when you're in love with somebody? What's that one feeling you get that makes you realize that your significant other is the one you want for the rest of your life? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted June 4, 2006 Share Posted June 4, 2006 My SO just turned 40. For his birthday, I gave him a top 40 list..."40 Things I Like About You" I began and ended that list with "that you're my best friend" We've known each other a long time, and we have love, passion, in love. But it's knowing that we're a team, that we are looking out for each other, that we help each other, that we do good things for each other ...that's what makes me believe that I want to be with him forever. Link to post Share on other sites
misspope Posted June 4, 2006 Share Posted June 4, 2006 I heard a preacher say...I was at church and a female meber kept asking her husband if he loved her and why. His reponse was not the things he loved about her, but that there was no reason, there was no answer. He knew, he felt, he loved her. If you ask my Uncle, it is when theer is no reason to be together, not money, not sex, not kids, just to be togehter. To know you are with this person for no econmical reason, no satisfaction, just that you are togehter. So being married for ten years I tried to apply his thought, and it never came through to me until I understood what the preacher said. There is no how can I count the ways good or bad, there is just that I love him. Link to post Share on other sites
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