Wife is moving to new apartment, she wants space and time

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[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3] My wife and I had been arguing for the past year about her "personal time' with her friends and co workers. It all started out when she started going to a once a month German women’s meeting/dinner. I never had a problem with it but she would stay out till 3am in the morning and leave me at home with her 7 year old boy, my step son. I couldn’t sleep at night, waiting for her to at least give me a call. When she would get home I would be hurt and upset and we would get into big arguments. It really got bad when she told me the place "her friends" liked to go to. It was a typical pick up joint where all the single soldiers would go to pick up on married women. It got worse when she got a job and met new friends from work. Then one day two weeks after her "best girlfriend" had her baby. She called my wife on a Sunday while we were out furniture shopping and asked her to take her out and get her drunk. As soon as we got home and put together the furniture she got ready and left me and her son. She got home at 1am Monday morning. My wife accuses me of being controlling and abusive. I admit we have gotten into pushing matches and asked her to forgive me for everything I was responsible for. [/sIZE][/FONT]

[sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] Anyway she has decided to move into her own apartment, doesn’t want me to help her move because her friends will be there. She has told me that if I ever asked her to choose between her friends and me she would pick her friends. We go to marriage counseling and individual counseling. She says that she goes because she wants the marriage to work and still loves me. I had her served with divorce papers in February but she refused to sign, saying that she loves me still.[/FONT][/sIZE]

[sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] We sent our son to Germany to be with his Grandmother for the summer. Now, this Friday she is moving out. She still goes out with her friends and this past weekend we were suppose to spend Saturday and Sunday together at the pool. Well she didn’t get back to her apartment until 5am on Saturday and was still asleep when I knocked on her door at 1pm. I kept myself busy on Sunday so I wouldnt bother or invade "her space" and not be available to her. She and I live in the same apartment complex until this Friday when she will move away.[/FONT][/sIZE]

[sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] I have tried very hard not to contact her and respect her "space". She says that she needs time to learn how to trust me again. She says that she needs to find herself and her independence again. She says she doesn’t need me and wants to prove it to me. I feel she wont accept the responsibility of a marriage and wants to have her cake and eat it too. I'm afraid that something might happen to her and I wont be there to protect her.[/FONT][/sIZE]

[sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman] I love my wife and miss her terribly. I want to give her time but as soon as she signs her lease I know that she will be out of my life for at least six months. What does a guy do?! Why are her friends more important than her marriage? Why does she give more respect to her friends than me? Why does she find her comfort with her friends and not with me? She says she isn’t seeing anyone but when I had asked her she got very upset and claimed I turn things around. She says that I try to make her do what I say and she thinks I am fully responsible for what has happened even after I asked for her forgiveness and said I was sorry.[/FONT][/sIZE]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I miss my wife![/sIZE][/FONT]