djrdei Posted May 24, 2006 Share Posted May 24, 2006 well heres the story.... I met his girl about 2 years ago and we hung out a lot but never really dated. We called it official last may and that fall she started her freshman year at college and it was my senior year. during that semester my dad got very ill and my grandma had a heartattack and i became very depressed. About a month after all of that happened she broke up with me because she said that the way i was acting was not making her happy. We saw eachother a few times during the spring semester but at that time our lives were going in very different directions.....she was on campus, joined a frat, had a huge social life while i lived at home, didnt og to the college because of my internship and spent most of my free time doing work not hanging with friends. She dated around some and just wasnt happy with the type of guys she was meeting. I began no contact about a month ago because we had a argument about something and i just didnt want to deal with her at all. SO now school is out and she has been home for a week now and she calls me. I talked to her and we ended up going out one evening. At the time she was still with her new guy but she told me she was not happy so she broke up with him the next day because she has feelings for me. I have talked to her for about a week now and we have gone out, i still love her and she still loves me. she says she is willing to make this work and so am i. We both needed to work on changes and sofar we both see that eachother has made changes. Should i give her another chance at me? i really miss her and we are both very comfortable with eachother. I know she dumped me and all but i know that my depression and attitude may have lead to it. any advice would be great.... Link to post Share on other sites
GB111 Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 Do you want her back? Do you think this relationship might go anywhere? If so, go for it. If the answer to either is no, don't undo the healing you've already done. GB Link to post Share on other sites
mr.gerbick Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 This is a tough one. It depends on how much you love her or if you actually know if it is love or not, you dated for less then a year! I would keep that in mind. Also, that was really sh*tty how she dumped you after all that happened to you, it seems like there was no sympathy there whatsover, almost heartless...that's not love. There is no way you should blame yourself for being depressed after what happened, If anything she should be blaming herself for not being sympathetic enough. She went and had her fun and and just added to your depression. Now she saw what kind of jerks are really out there and wants to come back, it seems like you are her saftey net. I would really think long and hard before jumping back into something, based off of the time you were together, how she left you at the time you needed someone the most, and that you may just be a back up plan. Sorry to sound brutal, but I am not telling you what to do, but to just to cover all of your bases, then decide. Believe me, I know love is a strong emotion and sometimes impossible to fight, if you don't believe me, just look at my threads, I have issues too. But you should really sit down and ask yourself is it love? or is it that it was something you couldn't have for so long that you wanted to have? Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
RichNZ Posted May 25, 2006 Share Posted May 25, 2006 go for it, ur lucky. Link to post Share on other sites
Author djrdei Posted May 25, 2006 Author Share Posted May 25, 2006 Well we saw eachother last night and again it was really great. We are both different people now and we still feel strongly for eachother even though we broke up. So far everyhing is better than the first time around. Looks like we are both going to give it a try again. Link to post Share on other sites
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