So stressed out I cant even begin to explain

[lilbo]

Ok... In March of 2005 my father passed away at the age of 47 I am 21 now and my younger brother is 15. Our Mother is bipolar and also has a sleeping disorder. In January of 2006 My GrandFather Passed away from stroke's. My grandpa and grandma (who is also passed away) have 7 children including my father. Since My father is passed away My brother and I are to be getting his share of my grandfather's estate next month , which is about 40k each. My bf and I have been living with his mother for a few years trying to save up for a house of our own. Today his mother makes the comment that she wants me to help payher house off which is about 34k remaining.... So if I did that I will end up OWEING MONEY for the TAXES. She even had the boagness the state she will pay back SOME of it when she sells her other land. She has did this for years. It really seems like she doesnt want us to get anywhere in life or anything. I had been planning on going back go school to get a degree in computer forensics.Now my hopes and dreams seem destroyed. Now dont get me wrong she CAN be a very nice person. BUT she is so mulnipulative and is a grand master at guilt tripping and USING people. I truely am beginning to believe she is the future MOTHER IN LAW from hell. Some of my reason for saying this are : My bf when he was 12 (he has chronic asthma) was entitled to get SSI most likely for the rest of his life, he has almost died from it about 2 times but didnt cause I was ther and took him to the hospital. She said she didnt want to turn in her personal imformation cause she was going bankrupt. Now what kind of f***ing selfish self obsorbed s*** is that!!!! My mother is bipolar and also has a sleeping disorder so I have been having to go get my brother up for school and take him after only a few hours of sleep a day. Im just so stressed im about to call a old friend and go get high after ive been clean for years. I know I know its the wrong thing to do but im dealign with such a enourmous amount of stress I cant take it anymore. Honestly Id like to sometimes sock my future mother in law in the face even thou I never would . She seems so evil, I hate her guts but I love her even thou that probley sounds totally cracked out. Normally I am such a nice person and try to see the posative things in life. Just venting here sorry if I sound like such a downer.

Sincerely Beth

[littlekitty]

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time at the moment. Please don't go and get high and ruin all your hard work to get clean and stay clean. If you beat any kind of addiction then you have the strength to get through this too, I promise you. You're probably far stronger than you think you are.

 

Now I would presume you are paying something towards your keep at your bf's mothers? Where is your brother? Still living with your Mother? Provided you have been paying an agreed keep, and have never said you would pay her a lump sum or anything at some point; then I see no reason for her to expect you to pay off her mortgage?! What is that?! For what reason does she expect you to do this? She must realise you are saving for your own futures, you are not even married to her son. I'm sorry, but I don't think you should give her the money. If you consider it, have something legally drawn up - including a repayment schedule, because they could easily stiff you out of that money otherwise.

 

Perhaps suggest you'll buy a portion of her home with the money if she really wants you to help and you feel honour bound. I'm sure she won't be so keen then.

[lilbo]

My bf and I pay $450.00 a month for rent, I dont think Id have such a probley with lending her it if I didnt know about her past with money which I do and I have seen her babits.. She is very addicted to the Slot machines , she goes to soaring eagle casino every weekend. She has 5 credit cards almost all are maxed out. She also made the comment to me that if she is ever to pass away someday my bf is to recieve about 70% of her insurance money... BUT she thinks the credit card companys may come after us to make him pay all her credit card debt.

 

I dont know personally I dont like to owe money on things, that is why we were saving to buy a house and pay it all off on the spot, its how my dad was and I guess he passed that down to me lol;) .

[Guest]

Just say no to her, you clealy have other people to support as well as yourself. Your dad left it to you for your future, and you have a some great ideas of where your money should go, which im sure your dad would be very proud of. Let her think what she wants, its your money just say no.

[Love Hurts]

It is rare for most of us to have money handed to us............... It is a gift.. and your name was on the lips of the one that past away... that soul now past onward was thinking of your best intrest in life.

 

It is for you.......... a gift... In this life it is not much, or it is a fortune depending on how frugal you are or how you can blow through a dollar.

 

You alone can think of a zillion ways to use that cash........

people come out of the woodwork when they know you have something they may take advantage of.

 

You are not married... you are a single female.............. you have many options............ no holds bar........... situation...............

yet the so called futuristic inlaw is like an outlaw........... smoking guns want your cash at your expense.

 

Run kid..................... take your gift from a soul that loved you and run.

 

I personally know 20 more people that want your cash................ feeling like it's all yours yet?

 

Take care......

 

Think.............of yourself.........if you don't ... who will?

[debbiB]

Do not feel guilty and give/lend her the money....she is trying to use you and it is not her money and she has no say in it. Do with the money as you want to because the money is to you from the person who wanted YOU (not her) to have it.