and i thought women are confusing

[MaGGie]

see hte guys im dating/friends with

 

well i kinda developed feelings for him

 

and im scare cuz i want something more then friend ship but i dont want to rush him into anything i just wanna be with him have some fun together and be happy

 

but im having lil problem telling him how i feel

 

i dont wanna scare him away

 

and i dont want to ruin my chances

 

can someone help?

[Tony T]

This is not an unusual situation but it is a very touchy one. Because he's your friend, it's really hard to tell just where his head is at as far as the likelihood of being more than just a friend. These situations happen all the time and romance that springs out of friendship can be the very best kind.

 

You have to be honest with him and true to yourself. This is about the greatest risk we take.

 

You simply have to tell him you have special feelings for him and that if should ever he may feel like taking the friendship to a higher level, you would be open to that. Say no more...but make sure he understands what you have said. The rest is up to him and in his hands.

 

This makes it a bit easier because it doesn't put him too much on the spot but it does get your feelings across so he understands. Saying it this way will do far less damage to your friendship should he not feel the same way as you do.

 

If he is truly your friend, it may be awkward for a short time but he will remain your friend no matter what. If he sees himself as just an acquaintance to you, he may drop away for a while.

 

Regardless, you've got to flush this out as soon as possible. Remaining around someone you care about as just a friend is not being good to yourself or honest to the other person.