He says he's not flirty...

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So I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. I'm 19 and he's 23. We have a really great relationship and have been extremely close since day 1.

 

The only things we really argue about are jealousy/trust issues because I'm pretty paranoid. I've never really had a reason to suspect that he's cheating, but there are many situations where I get insanely jealous because I feel like he gives other female friends of ours too much attention. The attention he gives them is almost always in the form of teasing. For example, he'll do something like poke them, "steal" their hat, or make fun of them in a joking manner.

 

I'm guessing my opinion of this stems from childhood--you know how kids tease the guys/girls they like. So I've just ALWAYS assumed people are flirting when they're teasing and poking each other, and they look like they're flirting, don't they?? I'm afraid that even if he's not intending to be flirtatious (and he swears he's not), the girls he teases are going to think he's flirting with them.

 

Besides that, we both have myspace accounts and I noticed today that he had posted what I think is a mushy, way-too-personal comment on the profile of a girl we know (we're both friends with her). A family member of hers recently died and we went to the funeral the other day, so I know WHY he posted the comment, but still... part of his comment to her said, "It just sucks that our first hug had to be because of such bad circumstances." Then he goes on to say that she shouldn't ever hesitate to call him. The way he worded that seriously weirded me out and I really don't like it. He says he was just trying to brighten her mood and make her smile, but why the f*** would that make her smile unless they "like" each other? He also moved her to his "Top 8" (you myspacers know what I'm talking about) a couple months ago and commented on her page giving her a hard time about him not being on HER top 8. I'm wondering, why the hell does it matter so much!? It makes me so mad that he gives that much of a s*** about it to keep bugging her.

 

I don't know what to think, but I'm tired of getting ticked off over every little thing he says to other girls. I admit I'm selfish about his attention at times. And like I said, jealousy is our only problem. Other than that we're really solid. If you think I'm just crazy and I need to get over stuff like this, please let me know. It would help, lol.