lovely221 Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 My fiance went and hung out with an ex of his from a few years back and some other friends the other night. As far as I know, nothing happend, they just had drinks, but I'm a little upset. Should I really be upset over this? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovely221 Posted May 27, 2006 Author Share Posted May 27, 2006 Is anyone out there? Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 My fiance went and hung out with an ex of his from a few years back and some other friends the other night. As far as I know, nothing happend, they just had drinks, but I'm a little upset. Should I really be upset over this? Well, that depends. I have this little rule. I don't go anywhere where there is excessive alcohol unless I am with my SO. This just cuts out alot of questions and chances of things happening. I call it respect. It's also about trust. If you think your bf is capable of cheating on you, then yes, you should be upset, but if thats the case, then above anything you should be upset that he is capable of cheating in the first place. It's all about trust and respect, IMO Link to post Share on other sites
penkitten Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 imo- exs are exs for a reason and we shouldnt go hang out with them "just cause". we also shouldnt go hang out with them without our significant other. what was he thinking? Link to post Share on other sites
BeFree Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 I don't think it's that big of a deal as long as it does not happen often. My bf, met up with his ex and some friends a while back. I was upset, but in the end I am glad he did it. It seems as if that meeting closed that chapter in his life. Since then, I hardly hear about her and he seems more at peace with that relationship being over. Wait and see what the affect is, before you get upset. If it becomes a habbit, then you need to worry. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 It all depends on how your fiance feels about his ex. They might have turned in too really good friends, but usually ex's stay the way they are. You should in a way be careful because when things go wrong they could always go back to an ex, well thats what happend to me...but no fiance was involed, things were different for me so you don't exactly know. Find out if she still has feelings for him? and have they stayed in touch for a while or just randomly poped up to hang out? Link to post Share on other sites
lilbo Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Well .. for me I would never let my man go to a party to where his ex was going to be cause she is downright crazy. A few years ago She posted my name and number into a dating service phone thing when I was only 17, so there were all these strange men calling trying to make it look like I was internested in them to break us up. I would say it really depends on the ex and what they are like. To bad my answering machine wasnt the tape kind and is electric or I would have took her to court and sued her since I was only 17 and that is illegal. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovely221 Posted May 27, 2006 Author Share Posted May 27, 2006 Well .. for me I would never let my man go to a party to where his ex was going to be cause she is downright crazy. A few years ago She posted my name and number into a dating service phone thing when I was only 17, so there were all these strange men calling trying to make it look like I was internested in them to break us up. I would say it really depends on the ex and what they are like. To bad my answering machine wasnt the tape kind and is electric or I would have took her to court and sued her since I was only 17 and that is illegal. He went to a club/bar with her and two mutual friends of theirs. They ended up hanging out with some more people, so it was a group. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted May 29, 2006 Share Posted May 29, 2006 He went to a club/bar with her and two mutual friends of theirs. They ended up hanging out with some more people, so it was a group. That's tantamount to a date since it seems it was planned. If they'd simply showed up at the same place by happenstance, that's one thing. Planning a meeting in which you were not included is inappropriae. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovely221 Posted May 29, 2006 Author Share Posted May 29, 2006 Well I know he's stayed friends with this girl. It's been quite a while since they've actually dated, he's had a few other relationships since then, including his relationship with me, which we are engaged. I know he loves me. I don't doubt that one bit. I've read plenty of other account on this board from women who said their fiance's/boyfriends are still close with ex's and meet up with them from time to time. As far as I know this is the first time he's hung out with her in a while, and like I said, it wasn't just them. If it had been just the two of them, alone together, then I'd be worried. They were there with other friends and as far as I know, nothing remotely romantic happened. I feel like I overreacted a bit. I have male friends that I'm close with that I got out with from time to time without him and it's all in fun. Link to post Share on other sites
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