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[luscious]

I'm in a marriage where my husband don't realize the importance of being married. He has cheated on me, and I did what the bible said by standing by your husband, and forgiving him, but in the same month I came to learn that he also fathered a child to whom was before my time, but After all this I forgave him, and to top the cake you would think he'sd appreciate me, but instead I caught him with another female. My mind is so screwed up. I am eemottionally tired of dealuing with things that I don't have to deal with. I want a divorce, but I have 2 kids that really don't understand that their daddy is a hoe.

[lovelorcet]

It looks like you know the path you must take. That is a lot more then many people have here. No one should be treated like you have been and I am so sorry that this has happened to you. There is not much I can really say other than stay strong!

[Curmudgeon]

I want a divorce, but I have 2 kids that really don't understand that their daddy is a hoe.

 

...and can be the worst reason to stay in a marriage. Think of the lessons your children are absorbing about love, trust, fidelity, relationship, honesty and integrity with a father like that. Those lessons will follow them into their own future relationships.

 

Besides, don't you deserve better?

[tinktronik]

I too was married to a "hoe " , first cautious affairs , then he became more and more blatant with them , Untill I would come home and there was a girl sitting on my couch , while my children played in the other room . You see I have 3 children . The youngest was maybe 2 weeks old at this point . I began to feel as if I was slowly loosing my mind . I decided that it was not my jerry springer life , not my problem and I would not deal with it , not react to it. I went about my life taking care of my children , finding a job and getting closer to leaving . I did blow up a few times , how could I not , going to the grocery for milk and comming home to some girl sleeping on my couch or some girl dropping her kid while she left with my husband . It was insanity . I did leave , and every day I feel a relief that I don't have to do that anymore . I feel as if a huge rock has been lifted from me , indeed it has . My kids are happier without the tension n their homes and they have a happy well put mother , with no serious worries .It was the best thing I have done in my life so far.

[Spitkicker]

I too was married to a "hoe " , first cautious affairs , then he became more and more blatant with them , Untill I would come home and there was a girl sitting on my couch , while my children played in the other room . You see I have 3 children . The youngest was maybe 2 weeks old at this point . I began to feel as if I was slowly loosing my mind . I decided that it was not my jerry springer life , not my problem and I would not deal with it , not react to it. I went about my life taking care of my children , finding a job and getting closer to leaving . I did blow up a few times , how could I not , going to the grocery for milk and comming home to some girl sleeping on my couch or some girl dropping her kid while she left with my husband . It was insanity . I did leave , and every day I feel a relief that I don't have to do that anymore . I feel as if a huge rock has been lifted from me , indeed it has . My kids are happier without the tension n their homes and they have a happy well put mother , with no serious worries .It was the best thing I have done in my life so far.

 

This is definately one of those light at the end of the tunnel type of posts.. that should help a lot of people realize that sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same.

[stillafool]

Welcome lucious. I am so sorry you are going through with this. I think a lot of us have had men like this. I have had too many and my experience is they don't change. It's one thing to make a mistake and be forgiven and do better from there. My experience with "serial cheaters" is just that - they keep right on doing it. The amazing part is once you're gone it seems no longer the fun for them that it was. You do deserve better.

 

If you have a daughter you wouldn't want her to learn to accept this behavior from her husband and if you have a son you wouldn't want him to learn that this is the way to treat your wife. If you truly love him tell him he has to get help or you don't see a future with him. Good Luck!