LILBLACK Posted October 28, 2001 Share Posted October 28, 2001 I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER ALMOST A YEAR AND ALL WE DO ANYMORE IS FIGHT. HELP!! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted October 28, 2001 Share Posted October 28, 2001 If you are in a relationship and the only interaction between the two of you is fighting, seek a counsellor who can teach both of you the proper reasons to fight and healthy dispute resolution techniques to make your arguments productive. If the fighting is non productive and serves no purpose except to make up the basis for the relationship's existence, then I urge you to get out of it ASAP. I seriously doubt you can feel fulfilled in a relationship of this type unless you come from a highly dysfunctional family and are used to this type of thing. If it's your fiance who is initiating these fights, he very well may be fighting his fear of intimacy, for achieving such is very difficult in such a landscape. If you are initiating them, this very well may be the case for you. A competent therapist can help sort out the reasons for such constant arguments and transition your relationship into a more healthy state if that's what the two of you want. Don't even think about getting married until this matter is resolved. If you ask him to go to counselling and he starts another fight, walk out the door and never return. This is not the kind of life you should be looking forward to. Link to post Share on other sites
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