Spitkicker Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 I just wanted thought and opinions of people who have hadsex with their ex. The reason I am asking is my ex came to me wanting us to get back together. We had sex a few times .. and now she's singing a different tune. Did she just use me for sex? possibly. I would like to her anyone's elses stories about sex with the ex and if it worked out or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Diver012 Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 Well, im not super proud of this, but here goes... There was a girl in college. I kinda liked her, she really liked me. She would come on way to strong, and I would break up. after a few months, we would run into eachother, I was horny, she was too.. we would hook up again.. Wash Rinse & Repeat. Looking back on this I realized that I was using her for sex. At some point she had to realize it too, but kept allowing it. She would date other guys, none of them seriously, and I would date other girls the same... it worked ok because it was mutual at this point. If you have serious feelings for this person, and they are coming around for sex., then I wouldnt ever go there with them. You will just get your feelings hurt again. Link to post Share on other sites
luvtoto Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 Well, im not super proud of this, but here goes... There was a girl in college. I kinda liked her, she really liked me. She would come on way to strong, and I would break up. after a few months, we would run into eachother, I was horny, she was too.. we would hook up again.. Wash Rinse & Repeat. Looking back on this I realized that I was using her for sex. At some point she had to realize it too, but kept allowing it. She would date other guys, none of them seriously, and I would date other girls the same... it worked ok because it was mutual at this point. If you have serious feelings for this person, and they are coming around for sex., then I wouldnt ever go there with them. You will just get your feelings hurt again. I couldn't have said it better. Link to post Share on other sites
Solachica Posted May 29, 2006 Share Posted May 29, 2006 Maybe she was just horny and knew you wud be willing? Link to post Share on other sites
ronnieromance Posted May 29, 2006 Share Posted May 29, 2006 I think it's probably a case of the above mixed with the fact that people, a lot of times have memories of the good times with people. This occurs often, leading to a rude awakening after spending a little time around the ex. I don't know the specifics of the break up or the nature of the relationship, but it could have been for closure, out of boredom, revenge, or a legitimate want toget back together. In any event you sound like you want an SO. Why don't you get on a dating site, like webdate, and mert some new people? -R- Link to post Share on other sites
Apathetic Posted May 29, 2006 Share Posted May 29, 2006 Ive been in this situation,in fact my ex & I just had sex last Tuesday..and it isnt a good thing,even though I know I wasnt being used,I still felt like it..Just not a positive situation,I learned the hard way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Spitkicker Posted May 29, 2006 Author Share Posted May 29, 2006 yeah i've actually thought about going on a dating site... i hope it doesn't sound corny, but I honestly would like a SO. I'm not the type for one night stands or any of that. Sex with the ex is great because you know each other's bodies so well, but if there is nothing behind it then it just feels so empty. ahah that probably sounded corny coming from a dude... I just don't understand how some people can be so manipulative. Link to post Share on other sites
Apathetic Posted May 30, 2006 Share Posted May 30, 2006 Opps I made a mistake...I slept w/ him last 2 weeks ago,not last Tuesday Link to post Share on other sites
rising Posted May 30, 2006 Share Posted May 30, 2006 i was broken up with 3 months ago, i've used nc or lc for the past 2 months... i haven't called even once in the last month, only answered the calls after several messages... then he came into my work and tracked me down asking to go on a walk... this was 2 nights ago. yes, the walk turned into some wine, and sex, and cuddling, and sex again in the morning. i don't know if i feel used, or am using him, but the kissing felt very connected and more real than just sex. don't know where this is going to lead, i for the first time called him up today (after 2 days of nc since the sex), and we are going to go on a bike ride today in the early evening. sometimes, i think that sex can also recconnect the passion that makes you realize the loss of what being in love is. i'm may be setting myself up for a fall, but i'm having a good time so far, and i'm not feeling devastated like when we first broke up (he broke up with me, saying he is no longer in love, but his actions are way louder than those words). all i have to say is follow your heart, be strong, and visualize what you want and what is good in life and relationships, keep working on yourself so that if they do come around, they feel fortunate to be spending time with you. other than that, if he acts cold or freaked out to be with me, i'm out of there. i think the nc really made him realize what a loss he has since spending time with me is gold. i refuse not to have good life. Link to post Share on other sites
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