talizat Posted May 29, 2006 Share Posted May 29, 2006 Hello You might have read my posts or not, I posted a couple weeks ago. Here are the news. We are together for 7 months, I was too needie, he loves me but I pushed him away. We are in a LDR... he should be moving closer to my state in a few months. Basicaly we are getting out of a one week with no talking at all, I once more wanted an answer *now*, got mad, and left (yes, not smart at all) Yesterday I initiated a conversation with him. At first he was really reluctant and blew me off. I stayed respectful and short, finally he accepted to talk to me. I first apologized for my attitude of last week and he forgave me. That's important to me. Basicaly the conversation that we had was me acknowledging of my mistakes, I agreed that I gave him headches in a period of his life where he didnt need any. I said that I had taken the week off to think about my attitude and change it. He asked if I intended in changing it in a week and i said that no, I would need more than a week indeed and I certainly would make mistakes but I am on my way for a better me. He had to go for a meeting, I left him alone. He then recontacted me on his own. I asked for the permission to send him an email as i didnt want to go through another heavy conversation and stress him. He said yes. Basicaly the content of my mail was: me asking for a chance to prove that I can modify my attitude (pushy, needie, jealous, I wanted to spend all of our free time together all the time... ugh...). Am I like that in a relationship usually? No, we have a saying though "too much love kills love" and thats what I did... That I wanted to win him back. I said that whatever his answer would be, yes, or no, I would respect it. (It will be hard if I get a no but I will respect his decision) I added that he had all the time he needed to answer me. I sent the mail and I guess he read it right away (so curious! I knew he would ) and a few min later we were spending time together, contact that he initiated, again. We spent about 3 hours together, it was super, he was adorable, the same again. Affectionate. I kept a bit of my distance on a romantic point of view and did not speak about our relationship at all, I just enjoyed my time with him. My huney doesnt talk, he is not the king of communication, he is someone very nature, very affectionate, jealous he can be, he needs his space as I do, I know he loves me, I love him very much (too much ). He has to initiate the steps in our relationship or he feels trapped and pulls out. If i push him into something or ask him too much about something, he gets scared easy. He was in a 4 y relationship before me, he is super scared for sure. Do we share the same ideals? Yes, family, kids, companionship. I know it's gonna take me weeks to get back to a normal attitude with him, I want to work it out, I saw the worse happening and now i want the best to be back. I would appreciate advices, maybe books about self improvment, anything you will judge appropriate. I want to save our relationship. Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted May 29, 2006 Share Posted May 29, 2006 Sounds like you're on the right track. Since you know he loves you, you don't need to be with him all the time in order to feel secure in the relationship. Let him drive for a while and take it at his own pace. Live your life and enjoy the time you spend together without being greedy and demanding more. After a while, you'll both relax into your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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