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This is probably the wrong thread to put this in, but I am just curious . . . Has anyone ever found a healthy, lasting relationship? I begining to think that the possibility of this does not exsist.

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Whats this "Long Lasting Relationship" You speak of? LOL

 

Actually, my parents have been married for over 40 years. Ive seen so much crap you wouldnt believe it. But they are still married and together.

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We all talk about never getting back together with anyone ever . . . I just wonder if there are people out there who have relationship were they always have a big arguement and work it though to a resolution. What makes these relationship different that successful ones. Is there a chance of ever meeting someone and being happy for the rest of your life? My parents have been married for 30 years - but not happily.

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I'm over 50 and this is my perspective. Women have changed. They won't put up with anything anymore and are as sexually aggressive as men now. I think they took a lot of sh*t back in the past and just "stood by their men" while the fellows were out drinking and carousing. Now they just walk away. I think people in general are just quicker to cut their losses when they are dissatisfied.

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I agree with the direction of the comment Guest made, but, nonetheless, I am going to submit my personal addition to that.

 

My second marriage is the one that I now use as a kind of 'standard' for committed relationships.

 

We were happily married until his death in '89.

 

He was the kind of person I have always considered ideal: strong character, extremely intelligent in business -and life, in general. He was very kind, sophisticated, generous -and he loved being a part of a family.

 

There was little to disagree or argue about with him, as well.

 

He wasn't perfect, -but he was pretty close. (Smile).

 

They do not make men like him, anymore, I'm afraid.

 

At least, -to date- I haven't found any.

 

-Rio

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yes, people DO have good, lasting relationships. you just wouldn't know it, because those people are having and enjoying them rather than logging onto LS for sado-masochistic-hypothetical bs.

 

when your relationship is succeeding, you're not going to strangers for online advice. and if you want to be in another successful relationship get your ass OFFline and out of the house. nobody falls in love in a virtual vacuum.

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yes, people DO have good, lasting relationships. you just wouldn't know it, because those people are having and enjoying them rather than logging onto LS for sado-masochistic-hypothetical bs.

 

when your relationship is succeeding, you're not going to strangers for online advice. and if you want to be in another successful relationship get your ass OFFline and out of the house. nobody falls in love in a virtual vacuum.

 

I'm trying to meet people - I have my pick of men over the age of 40 (I'm 27). I'd like to meet someone my own age! And they don't want anything committed or with a future . . . It's a little frustrating.

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I'm trying to meet people - I have my pick of men over the age of 40 (I'm 27). I'd like to meet someone my own age! And they don't want anything committed or with a future . . . It's a little frustrating.

 

i'm your age. and i know it's difficult. much more difficult than complaining about the situation (and its accompanying generalizations) to strangers on a message board.

 

want to meet people your age? get out the house and off your computer. do it now. go buy some groceries. go to a show. just get out of the house. unless you want to meet someone online through match.com or nerve, get away from the computer.

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i'm your age. and i know it's difficult. much more difficult than complaining about the situation (and its accompanying generalizations) to strangers on a message board.

 

want to meet people your age? get out the house and off your computer. do it now. go buy some groceries. go to a show. just get out of the house. unless you want to meet someone online through match.com or nerve, get away from the computer.

 

I get off my computer all the time . . . still . . . I have a hard time meeting quality people my own age.

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the ever increasing cynic I am... NO!!! They do not exist anymore. I think people stay together now days because they are comfortable with eachother.

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I get off my computer all the time . . . still . . . I have a hard time meeting quality people my own age.

 

What constitutes 'quality people' if I may ask??? :confused:

 

The way I see it is this: you get what you deserve. If you are 'all that', then why wouldn't you get the same in your woman?

 

I see this complaint in this forum so often, I'm beginning to scream 'SOUR GRAPES!' Hey, if you can't get the girl of your dreams, perhaps you should look into yourself - what do you have to offer for your dreamgirl? (And I hope it's not the 'dreams'. ;) )

 

There are decent, consciencious people everywhere. But you have to be one yourself. Ever heard of "it takes one to know one"? (Well, it can be applied here.)

 

Most people I know are just like myself: we don't smoke, drink, or do drugs. We work earnestly and we treat people with respect. If I were to divorce my H of 10 years, i know that I'd still be in good company.

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