Why a phone call two hours before his wedding?

[simplymetobe]

Hi,

I posted this elsewhere in this forum, but, being new and unsure of where this really needs to go, I am posting it here also. Thanks for being patient.

Hi,

I am a new poster ( I have been reading posts here for about a year).

My ex bf and I broke up April of 05. He met someone within a month and within 2 months of their meeting they became engaged. They were married last Sat. (May 27th).

Throughout all this time we have been in constant contact. Emails, IM's, Happy Hours, lunches, dinners and yes, "benefits". In fact our last IMs were two days before his wedding. The "benefits" ended about a month ago.

On Sat. I woke up and planned to do something fun for myself and to keep busy. Which is exactly what I did. However, in checking my voice mail I had a message from him stating that he wanted me to know he was thinking about me and that he would talk to me very soon. That sort of set me back a lot. This was 2 hours before his wedding!!!!!

In our many conversations I have asked many questions of him. IE: What are you going to do if this does not work? His answer: divorce her.

Are you still going to maintain contact with me? His answer: Yes.

He knows this drives her up the wall yet, he maintains that is what he wants to do and she needs to accept it. I know they fight a lot and she is very clingy. IE: I would be devastated if you ever left me, etc. He smokes cigars, she hates that and he has told her he plans to continue that also. He drinks, she hates that and he has told her that is going to continue also.

Now today, I recieved a broadcast email from him with pictures of the wedding. He sent it out to everyone he knows, including my 3 children.

He is 58 and she is 51, his third marriage and her second. Oddly enough, the pictures did not really have any effect on me. If he had sent them to me only I think I would have reacted differently.

Just to round this out, I have been moving forward and am getting on rather well in my life. I have a great job, great friends and life is pretty good.

Now that you have the history here, what are your thoughts? Why the phone call? Why does he maintain contact? Do you think this marriage will last? If not, how long do you think it will last? I have asked these questions of my friends and I am now looking for unbiased responses.

Thank you.

[Just Visiting]

This guy is a total d*ck. Forget about this "man". I am sorry you got caught up in all of that drama. He is someone who plays on women's insecurities and emotions. Do not allow him to continue that game with you. Life is too short and you deserve a whole lot more than what this guy is giving. Give it up and do not continue any sort of contact with him.

 

You are asking "Why"? Well I ask "Why not?". You have already allowed him access to everything else after the initial split...why not call 2 hours before the wedding and continue the game? He is getting everything he wants.