phyrespryte Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 So the yesterday my sister calls while I'm at school, crying uncontrollably. She had come home from the auto shop and told my mother that she needed to have her brake pads replaced and something about her rear tires. Well my mom went crazy when she found that out. She started yelling at her and telling her that she comes home at disrepectable hours (11:00pm, 11:45 the latest) is never home, she never helps with the cleaning, and that she is irresponsible. Well my sister argued with her for a bit then said...whatever you're right and went away. Knowing her she probably stomped off and slammed a door. Well my mom comes into her room, rips out from her dresser 2 drawers and throws the contents on the floor and then proceeds to push off everything on her desk onto the floor! She then starts accusing my sister that my sister abandoned her on mother's day. Now I suppose when people are angry and provoked they're going to lash out on their surroundings. But I don't think my mom had any reason to be angry in the first place. My sister wasn't asking her to pay for the repairs. She was just informing her of what was happening. And all the things that she was yelling about were...silly? My sister is never home because she goes to school full-time and has 3 part-time jobs. And since she is never home she really doesn't have time to help out with cleaning (which I might add that my mother doesn't really do either), but when she is home she does her fair share. And my sister never comes home as late as I do. I've come home from work many times at 3 in the morning and never received as much flack as my sister does for coming home at 11:30. And on mother's day...my sister was home with my mom. Not that it mattered because all my mom ever does is sit in front of the tv and yell at cspan or talk on the phone to her friends. I think my mom's behavior is just crazy. And not crazy like oh I don't get my mom and she made me mad so I'm going to call her crazy. Like I seriously think that there's something wrong with her. It's impossible to have a conversation without her turning it into an argument. And she always starts her sentences with "no". She's always right no matter who's she's talking to. It's not just a family thing. And you'll never hear her apologize if she does something wrong. Also when she's mad she'll say that we're such awful children and that it would have been better had she had never been born. In fact one time when I had told her it was going to take me 5 years instead of 4 years to finish my bachelors she went crazy. Crying and screaming. She told me that smart children graduate in 4 or less. She then asked me what was I doing and if I really went to summer classes. What is her deal?
laRubiaBonita Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 how old is she? my mother was nutttsoo from her mid-40's till after she was 50. Thanks to Menopause, and her screwy hormones. she was always the MAJOR PMS-er....would throw things, even at you, scream and yell..... i really thought she was crazy...maybe she was, crazed with hormones??? i dunno, i do know my older sis turnes to mega-bitch when pms-ing, i get really cranky, but try my best not to let it explode. NOT THAT PMS IS AN EXCUSE THOUGH!
Author phyrespryte Posted May 31, 2006 Author Posted May 31, 2006 She's 63. I think she's passed menopause? Also she's been like this all my life. Maybe she's a little more paranoid, but the angry fits are still there.
ConfusedGal Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 Maybe she has a borderline personality disorder...
michelangelo Posted June 1, 2006 Posted June 1, 2006 They have some kind of personality disorder that is undiagnosed and not acknowledged. It is really hard to take when they go off the handle making false accusations and such. They are all paranoid too. I hate it.
YellowLioness Posted June 1, 2006 Posted June 1, 2006 sounds like my mom. My mom is also that same brand of insane. My advice: soon you'll be out of her house, and you won't have to worry about her crap any more. She'll probably get along better with you (and your sister) once you aren't in her domain.
Author phyrespryte Posted June 3, 2006 Author Posted June 3, 2006 So I looked up the borderline personality disorder and it seems really extreme. I don't think she has thoughts of suicide. But I guess there could be different variations on it? I guess there isn't anything I can do about it? The other day my dad had a "talk" with us and just told us that we need to respect her and try to be more sensitive to her feelings. And that she's only got our best interests in mind. It's so frustrating. I can't argue with him because he's kind of right. I mean she's done a lot for me and my sister. I just wish that I could reason with her.
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