Guest Posted May 31, 2006 Share Posted May 31, 2006 Hi I have an issue. My husband and I have been married for 10 yrs and have been together for 13yrs. I haven't had any problems before this my husband opened a new business last year and I think that he is having an emotional affair with the business owner in the next building.(strip mall) End of last summer I suspected something was up and I asked him if he talked to her on his phone and he told me that no he hasn't, but that night I looked at his phone found out yes he had been talking to her. I confronted him then and of course he didn't want to tell me or I would get mad. I told him that I don't care if he talked her but when I asked don't lie! About 2 months ago I noticed that he was talking to her almost daily and for up to 1/2 hour at a time, but each time I asked he would lie. Finally my husband said that he would quit talking to her on the phone knowing that it upset me. But he never admitted talking to her when I asked. I know that he still walks into her store and talks to her on a daily basis, but I have no idea how long. He had been really good about not talking to her on the cell phone. I checked again last night and I noticed that he talked to her 2x in the last 4 days a total of about 15minutes. I know that isn't much but that is how it started before then it worked up to everyday. I asked him last night if he talked her on the phone and I know that he talks to her daily, he will tell me about that, but not the cell phone calls. He said no. I haven't let him know that I have access to his cell log records. My question is this a emotional affair??? I have no idea what they talk about and I have heard through the grapevine that she is not happy with her husband. Should I let my husband know that I know that he is lying or do I wait and see? Am I just being too jealous? My husband has another couple of girl friends that are truly friends and when he talks to them he will tell me and I really don't care who he talks to, but don't lie! Any advise would be greatly appreciated! Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Chump64 Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 I think I responded to you on another thread, but here goes. Don't let him know you check the cell logs. If he has given you legitimate reason for suspicion, then follow your nose. Does he talk to her while he's driving in his car? Buy a voice-activated recorder and hide it in his car. Assuming he doesn't look in the magazine holders behind the driver and passenger seats, those are great hiding places. You will only catch one side of the phone call but that's enough. I can't really tell if you are being jealous. I don't think so -- he lied to you about something that really shouldn't matter if it's innocent. Where there's smoke, there is often fire. (Sorry for the cliche.) Link to post Share on other sites
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