LDRS between different continents?

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Hi,

I am new at this site but me and my boyfriend has this huge obstacle I believe most of you share with us and I would need some advice!

 

I am an exchange student. There, obvious problem to begin with. Last fall, I moved to the USA to study English for ONE YEAR ONLY. Before I left, I made a promise to myself to not fall in love. I've had relationships before, all of them full of problems, and I had convinced myself that they where there because of me. Therefore, I felt better without any love in my life.

 

Well, as you may have guessed, that's not how it turned out. After a couple of months I started talking to this AMAZING guy, and we've now been dating for 5 months. Without a single fight. Without any of all those problems I thought were in my relationships because I brought them there... Instead, we trust each other completely, both of us sharing things we've never told ANYBODY before, knowing that the secrets are in safe hands. He had his share of troubled relationships behind him too, and I won't pretend that our love is perfect. But it exists.

 

Now, there is only a couple of days left of my stay here, and I am getting my doubts. My boyfriend is confident in a long distance relationship, he is not famous for being faithful, but says that he will be if I decide to keep in touch. I love him, I really do, but I am only 18, and it feels like... Maybe I am too young to know. Maybe I am just putting all this love on him because I've never had ANYONE that have answered my love before?

 

My friends here are split in their thoughts about him. They all agree on that he adores me, but while half of them believe that our love can move mountains, the other half are dismissing his devotion as something temporary. They don't believe that he will stay faithful.

 

There are no guarantees that I will see him again. Ever. And going from practically seeing him every day to not knowing if we'll meet again at all seems like a tough thing to do. I will move back to Sweden, he will stay here, and that could be the end of it...

 

Should we try to keep it going?

 

Sorry, I know that this post is long, but I needed to give you the background. If you have ANY advice for a girl in this position, PLEASE tell me, I will be forever grateful!

 

// Alexandra