jimbo79 Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 I'm really starting to suprise myself now. 6 years ago a girl and I broke up and I was devasted. I was 21. It was the right thing to happen and we argued alot so probably the healthiest thing to happen too. We had been going out for a year and it was extremely intense and we spent time travelling and living close to each other. The way I'd describe it was 'magic'. It seems so far away now but it was love pure and true. She and I have moved on. She is now married with 2 children and happy. I have a girlfriend of 4 years and am pretty happy. The thing is, I think I still love her. I think of her almost everyday, and yesterday on a relaxing walk along the beach I was brought to tears by the realisation that I will never walk along with her again. Maybe it's mixed up with missing my younger years, missing the spiritual magic that she brought to me and missing the way I remember us talking and laughing. Maybe it's the feeling that i have 'missed my boat'! Or maybe it is that I love her, and that I do miss her deeply. I don't know whether I want to get over it or not, but what I do know is that I want to be free to enjoy love without a feeling of loss. Anyone got any ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
DSA80 Posted June 1, 2006 Share Posted June 1, 2006 People change so much in six years, especially during their twenties. If anything is life-changing, it's probably having kids. She's likely not the same person now that she was when you were involved. At the very least, she's now someone else's wife and mother. I suggest thinking about whether being dissatisfied with your life right now is the real trigger for your nostalgia for your ex. And then plan to make the necessary changes. If you don't love the one you're with, let her go. No one deserves to be that consolation prize. Link to post Share on other sites
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