kjo314 Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 Guys/Gals So I met this girl about 3 weeks ago. She is amazing. We have been hanging out and such and she seems to like me. When I asked her she said she has feelings for me and could see us together. Obviously, being a man of morals I havn't pursued this because I don't want to force anything. She has told me that she doesn't think that her and her b.f will make it through the distance of summer and she said she is also confused about boht relationships but told me that she could see us together. We have hung out twice this week and she is going to 2 dances with me this weekend. I don't know what to do or what I should do. Obviously I want to be the one to make this woman happy! She keeps telling me she feels like the guy she is with she feels she isn't his type. They have only been together a month so it isn't like it has been that long. I could use some advice on how to make this a positive outcome for me. Call me an ass but I have never had good luck in this siutation and darnit I have finally met someone that makes me completely forget about all my failed relationships in the past and she is taken but there is a slim chance of hope and i really don't know what to do. I have never been in this situation..... Thank you all! Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 If you are a man of morals like you say, then I say cut her loose, at least until she decides what she wants from her relationship with her b/f. Don't be a third party in her situation. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 She has only been seeing this guy for a month or so, but yet she has feelings for you, what does that tell you about her character? I would say let her go all together. Find someone who is not attached. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 If she will cheat with you, she will cheat on you. Link to post Share on other sites
melancholyaddict Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 Based on what you've said, you can set your boundaries and possibly still have the outcome you want. The important thing to remember is to set your boundaries early. If you are intersted in her and she in you, you will need to tell her right now that if she would like to date you, then she has to make a decision now and get out of the relationship with the other person. And more importantly, you have to stick to the parameter you set. You can approach it in a way where you get to say how you feel without jeopardizing this very new relationship. If you do not set your boundary early on, you will be in for a mountain of pain down the road and feel torn about how you feel for her and what you ultimately want for your life. If she agrees and breaks up with him, starts to date you, then you've gone in the right direction. If she gives you pushback on how she could break up with this person and starts to give you reason after reason why she can't, you will be in for a tumultuous relationship. And she probably never intended to break up with the other person. When you start a relationship, you have to start it on equal ground. Hope this helps! Link to post Share on other sites
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