ash8752 Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 So, this may sound crazy. My boyfriend of over a year loves me, we live together and there is pretty much nothing lacking in our relationship but i am still very jealous. I also have a problem showing trust. I hate when he goes to after the bar parties. ( I am 24, he is almost 28). We'll go to a bar but once in a while he wants to go to these after hour parties where people are drunk and high and hang out. Not my scene. I constantly have dreams that he is cheating or dreams where he doesnt love me, but i know he's not cheating and he does love me. I all around get nervous and jealous when he goes to the bar with out me. Worrying he'll meet someone else. I have read advice and it is all great, but I want to know what real everyday people think of this. i'm sure i could go on and on about what i feel but that is the majority of it. He has never really betrayed me. there was a few things in the beginning where he continued to talk to his ex for a couple weeks trying to tell her he loves me as she cried constantly. Then maybe 2 times he lied about where he was because i would have been mad at him being at after parties. Anyway, that was all in the beginning. WHY AM I SO INSECURE??? Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 Have you been jealous in previous relationships as well, or just with him? If he wants some guy time to go to these after parties that you don't care for, thats fine, but why sit and worry. Just tell him next time he is planning on going out to a party without you, tell him you and some friends are going out as well. Don't sit home and dwell on the fact he is out doing his thing. I don't agree with him lying to you about the party thing in the past, that might have contributed to you feeling the way you do, so develop more self confidence and go out some yourself. If you are really that worried, maybe to put your mind at ease you and some friends drop by these parties he attends one night, just to see whats going on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ash8752 Posted June 2, 2006 Author Share Posted June 2, 2006 Thanks for the reply. You're right. I Shouldnt sit and worry. I have always been a bit jealous. But i think it's worse with him because I am truly in love with him and hope to spend forever with him. It makes it all such a risk. I have been cheated on before, i have had people not reciprocate feelings ive had and the exact opposite, but this is my first real serious relationship. One that i fear could damage me if it fails. Relationships are so risky huh??? Link to post Share on other sites
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