Amby In Vegas And Joel

[AMBERINVEGAS]

I'M 37 JOEL IS 35. JOEL WORKS AT HOME DEPOT. A COUPLE OF MONTHS AGO I WAS TIPPED BY A FRIEND AT HOME DEPOT. HE SAID, "I DONT' WANT YOU TO GET HURT BUT I HAVE TO TELL YOU SOMETHING.

 

THERE IS A GIRL NAMES TARA OR TERA WHO JOEL AND HER HAVE BEEN TEXT MESSAGING BACK AND FORTH AND CALLING EACH OTHER ON THEIR CELL PHONES. OK, GOOD TIP...NOW WHAT?

 

ON APRIL 24 THIS PAST APRIL 24 2006. HE LEFT TO GO TO HIS SISTERS HOUSE "SO HE SAID". I HAVE PANIC ATTACKS AND JUST HAD THAT WEIRD FEELING THAT SOMETHING IS WRONG. I TEXTED MESSAGED HIM EVERY HOUR AND CALLED AND LEFT MESSAGES EVERY HOUR UNTIL HE EMERGED AT 3 AM.

 

I ASKED WHAT DID HE DO AT HIS SISTERS, HE SAID THAT HE AND HIS BROTHER JUST FLIPPED THROUGH THE CHANNEL AND WERE LOOKING FOR SOMETHING TO WATCH.

 

I ASKED...I HAD BEEN TEXTING YOU AND CALLING YOU FROM 7:30 PM UNTIL 3AM, YOU NEVER RESONDED ONCE. OK.

 

THAT NIGHT I CHECK HIS TRUCK. THERE IS A FOAM BEER COOLER AND SLEEPING BAG IN THE BACK SEAT. I ASKED "WHY DO YOU HAVE A COOLER IN THE BACK OF YOUR TRUCK WITH BEER STILL INSIDE AND A SLEEPING BAG? HIS ANSWER! WELL MY SISTER DOESN'T HAVE ENOUGH ROOM IN HER FRIDGE SO I BOUGHT A COOLER. ALTHOUGH HE SAID HIS SISTER WAS FAST ASLEEP.

 

OK, SO I FIND A RECIEPT FOR GAS WHICH IS NO WHERE CLOSE TO HIS SISTERS HOUSE AT 9PM AND THEN A RECEIPT FOR BEER FROM A STORE RIGHT NEXT TO HOME DEPOT )RED FLAG ANYONE)?

 

I ASKED HIM ABOUT IT...HE PLAY STUPID AND COULD NOT ANSWER. FINE!

 

I CHECK TMOBILE ONLINE, I SEE AT 2AM ON APRIL 24 WHICH WOULD BE APRIL 25 HE WAS ON THE PHONE WITH TERA-TARA FOR 20 MINUTES.

 

I CONFRONT...HE SAID, HE DOESN'T REMEMBER THE CONVERSATION. L. A. M.E

 

OK, I GET MAD, HE DENY DENY DENY DENY.

 

SO I PULL TMOBILE BILLING AND IN AND OUT CALLS AND MESSENGING FOR THAT MONTH. EVERYDAY FROM ANYWHERE FROM 5-15 TIMES THROUGH OUT THE DAY, THEY TALK.

 

OK, I CHECK HIS PHONE..I FEEL CREEPY BUT YOU GOTTA DO WHAT YOU GOTTA DO.

 

FOUND A MESSAGE THAT NIGHT THAT SAID FROM TERA-TARA- HEY MY HUSBAND IS OUT OF TOWN, DO YOU WANT TO HOOK UP AND START WHERE WE LEFT OFF.

 

OK, CONFRONTATION TIME...HE SAID HE DIDN'T KNOW ABOUT THE TEXT, AND CANT UNDERSTAND WHY SHE WANTS TO GO OUT TO DINNER WITH HIM.

 

WELL, I TEXT HER SAYING LEAVE HIM ALONE. SHE SAYS "BITCH IT'S NOT MY FAULT YOU CANT SATISFY YOUR MAN AND I HAVE TO. AT FIRST I WAS NICE AND POINTED OUT THAT SHE WAS MARRIED WITH A CHILD. THAT DID NOT PHASE HER.

 

SHE SAID THEY HAVE f***ED ON NUMEROUS TIMES.

 

SO I CONFRONT JOEL AGAIN. NOW ITS MY FAULT BECAUSE I SHOULD NOT BE TALKING TO HER BECAUSE SHE IS LIEING AND I SHOULD BELEIVE HIM.

 

A 3AM PHONE CALL, PLUS NUMEROUS CALLS LATE AT NIGHT TO AND FROM EACH OTHER.

 

IT CAME TO A HEAD FRIDAY. I FOUND SHE IS MOVING INTO HIS DEPARTMENT AND WILL BE WORKING SIDE BY SIDE. WITH EACH OTHER. I ASKED JOEL, HE SAID WELL SHE TEXT MESSAGED ME.

 

I SAID, SHE DOESN'T NEED TO TEXT YOU, YOU CAN WALK IN TUESDAY TO FIND OUT FOR YOURSELF.

 

OK, SO LAST NIGHT FRIDAY JUNE 2. 2006 I TEXT MESSAGED HER AND SAID THERE WAS NO NEED TO TEXT HIM, PLEASE STOP.

 

SHE SAID AND I QUOTE AND I CAN SEND THESE TEXT TO THIS SITE.

 

SHE SAID YOUR FAT AND UGLY AND I CAN UNDERSTAND WHY HE DOESN'T WANT TO WAKE UP TO YOU. (IM 5'2 132 AND AVERAGE.

 

I TOLD HER SHE HAS NO PROOF THAT THEY HAD SEX...SHE BLEW IT WIDE OPEN.

 

SHE SAID "REMEMBER THE TIME HE WENT TO HIS SISTERS? WE f***ED THEN. REMEMBER WHEN HE SAID HE HAD TO GO PICK UP HIS TOOLS, WE f***ED THEN.

 

SHE SAID HE WORE NO UNDERWEAR (WHICH HE DOESN'T) SHE DESCRIBED IN DETAIL EVERYTHING THAT HE WORE.

 

SHE MENTIONED THE BEER COOLER/ SLEEPING BAG AND SO ON.

 

SHE SAID HE WANTS HER. HE DENIES EVERYTHING SAYING SHE IS A LIAR. BUT, MY TMOBILE BILLS CONFIRM EXACTLY HOW MANY TIMES THEY TALK. PLUS SHE CAME CLEAN WITH 'DETAILS AND WHAT HE LIKES TO DO TO HER".

 

OK, YOU WOULD NOT KNOW ABOUT THE COOLER AND SLEEPING BAG UNLESS YOU WERE IN HIS TRUCK, IN THE BACK SEAT. YOU WOULD NOT KNOW EXACT DETAIL OF WHAT HE WEARS. YOU WOULD NOT KNOW THAT HE WENT TO HIS SISTERS HOUSE FOR TOOLS UNLESS HE TOLD HER.

 

SHE SAID I AM BEING PLAYED.

 

SHE TOLD ME EVERY SINGLE SEXUAL THING THEY DID AND WHEN AND WHERE.

 

SO SATURDAY JUNE 3, 2006 HE IS MAD AT ME YET AGAIN...SAYING IT'S MY FAULT THAT IM PLAYING HEAD GAMES AND THAT I SHOULD BELIEVE HIM OVER ME.

 

ALSO HE MADE THE COMMENT THAT I'M TOO STUPID TO FIGURE IT OUT (THEM ACCORDING TO HER TEXT MESSAGES TO HIM)

 

HERE IS THE SCARY PART. HE IS VERY AGGRESSIVE AND WILL HURT ME. I BELIEVE IN ALL MY HEART THAT HE WILL KILL ME. THIS IS NO JOKE. HE HAS PUSHED ME THROUGH A GLASS TABLE, SHAKEN ME TILL ME TEETH RATTLE AND PUSHES ME. OF COURSE I PUSH AND HIT RIGHT BACK. HE MIGHT KILL ME, BUT AT LEAST I GOT A FEW GOOD SHOTS IN.

 

SO SEEING HOW EVERYTHING SHE HAS CONFESSED, HE STILL DENY DENY DENY.

 

HE SAID HE WAS ANGRY SHE WAS WORKING WITH HIM. WELL, SHE SAID OTHER WISE, HE CAN'T WAIT. AND FOLLOWS HER AROUND LIKE PUPPY DOG.

 

HEADS UP...ANY AND ALL FEEDBACK IS WELCOME.

 

ONE THING I CAN'T LEAVE THE APARTMENT RIGHT NOW BECAUSE I JUST STARTED A NEW JOB AND HAVEN'T HAD MY FIRST PAYCHECK.

 

WHAT GETS ME IS ALL HE HAS TO DO IS CONFESS AND GO SEE A COUNSELOR.

 

FEEDBACK PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!! ANY AND ALL.

 

ANGRY AMBY IN VEGAS.

[lkluck]

You are lucky that you realize you have to leave. Go to Safe Nest in Las Vegas. No counselor will see both of you together if he has a history of violence. Most counselors say abusers are very hard to reform and usually abuse again. Leave now

[SoleMate]

This story sounds like it is about cheating, but really the important issue is him pushing your head through a glass table. This means he is a dangerous abuser and you must get away from him - no ifs, ands or buts.

 

Yes, he is definitely having it off with Tara the married skank. At this point, that is the least of your problems except insofar as it will increase his aggression if you confront him, accuse him, etc.

 

So...DON'T confront him! Go stay with friends or family if you can. If not, try a shelter. Safe Nest as above, or Shade Tree.

 

SAFE NEST-SOUTHERN NEVADA

(Temporary Assistance for Domestic Crisis)

2915 W. Charleston, Suite 3-A

Las Vegas, NV 89102

 

Phone (702) 877-0133

Fax (702) 877-0127

 

Shade Tree

For help

Please call us at (702) 385-0072

or come to

1 West Owens

North Las Vegas, NV 89030

(Southwest corner of Owens & Main)

Or send an e-mail to [email protected]

http://www.theshadetree.org

 

BTW, please don't give any weight to the accusations of fatness, ugliness, etc. They are not true. There are plenty of men out there who would love to treat you right, not cheat, not hurt you, think that you are beautiful, and not fill your life with this kind of garbage. Please ask for help - both practical and counseling - at one of the shelters.

 

Good luck, keep posting.