woman who wonder why men cheat.

[Guest]

Men = Dogs and many woman wonder why? Because it's true! We are... we are HORNdogs! It's life... it's dates all the way back to the history of humans and mankind. if you would give it to us atleast 3/4 of the time that we tell you we want it and try to get it, things might be a little different.

 

It seems that at the beginning of all relationships... sex is in the air... and it's HOT and comes A LOT. Think about it, most couples screw all the time when they first get together and start having intercourse. As the relationship settles and the fire mellows out over time, woman tend to forget how important it is for men to have sex. So being the men, we tell our partners that it is bothering us and that we NEED sex (more then 1time every 2 weeks) because it is said that communication is the key yet it still seems to go in one ear and out the other. The outcome.... NO SEX FOR WEEKS and possibly MONTHS for the REALLY unfortunate. Then we get frustrated...sexually frustrated that is.... and take it out on u, in inadvertant ways and cause arguements. then the 1 or 2 weeks turns into 3 or maybe 4. now we are really angry. we tried to tell you and you didn't do anything. so we are forced to fulfill our burning desire for the woman's vagina. if u are a woman reading this... think about the times you ask or try to make love with your husband..... would he say NO? probably not, any man if capable will jump on it and get going. So it is your job as a spouse to say YES instead of NO and take it.... if you REALLY care about making your partner happy and REALLY don't want him to cheat. You too might get rid of a boatload of stress.

 

The dilema....

I have cheated, partially for other reasons like immaturity and to see what i could get away with. now i am with one i love and would hate to have to cheat on her or hurt her like that. She is not ok with me having another woman STRICTLY pleasure me the days i want it and she can't provide it. Understandable... that is the only part that i would change but don't want to "threaten" her that i will "cheat" on her if she can't provide the satisfactory amounts of sex. So what do i do.... i know my arguement is valid and know that i WANT to get sex from another girl when mine doesn't provide but my girlfriend isn't ok with it. AND she doesn't go out of her way to improve the situation, even in other ways. But it's not a big enough problem to leave the girl. so what is the "correct" thing to do with these thoughts in mind.

[Outcast]

As the relationship settles and the fire mellows out over time, woman tend to forget how important it is for men to have sex.

 

And men forget entirely that women need to feel good about the relationship (and not be exhausted and tense) in order to want sex. Men think that they can behave any old way to their women and still expect the women to want sex. It does NOT work like that. If men would get it into their heads that tending to the rest of the relationship will get them more sex and do something about that, they wouldn't have to bitch and whine about not getting sex.

 

*note all generalizations in this post are for illustration only and are not meant to indicate that all members of any gender are alike

[catgirl1927]

If she had sex with someone who had a bigger dick because he could provide something you couldn't, would you understand and stay with her? Didn't think so.

 

Men cheat because they are selfish, cowardly and cruel. The original post is a long lie to justify not caring at all how another person feels. It's juvenile, self-indulgent and wrong.

 

If you want to have sex with another person, the right thing to do is leave. If sex is so important to you that you don't give a s*** how she feels, then LEAVE. It is cowardly and selfish to do otherwise.

[melancholyaddict]

You have a valid point but the way you are going about it is not the right way if you want to protect this girl. It's true that women probably don't think about sex the way men do nor need it as much. However, that should not be the reason to cause infidelity in your relationship.

 

I also think men do not think about the consequences of hurting a women's emotional well being. To you it might be just sex, however, to her, it is way more personal and sacred.

 

If I were counseling a couple I would say sex can be compromised upon. You, the male tone it down a notch and you the female, step it up a notch. However, this starts with a secure basis for a relationship and excellent communication.

 

Maybe that communication needs to be improved, rather than a heart to heart, maybe you need to sit in front of an un-biased party and air it out. Otherwise, you will have to be creative enough to give and take in this relationship. I find it hard to believe that just because you are male, you equate yourself to this uncontrollable urge that cannot be controlled. You surely don't like it when women use the 'it's my time of the month' excuse, for being a bit edgy, now do you?

 

I mean, if that's the case, what is the difference between you and an animal? Have you thought about remaining single without any attachments? Then you could have sex whenever you wanted and no one would be getting hurt. Sounds like you want to have your cake and eat it too. Problem is, women are too smart for this game and in the long run you will just be hurting yourself.

[Guest]

If you loved her you would relieve yourself alone in the bedroom.

On the days that she is not in the mood.

It's called love.

 

You have a high sex drive it's obvious.

Sex is very important in a relationship.

 

However life is more than sex.

There may come a time when you are not in the mood and she is.....

Would you have a 'too bad' attitude towards her?

 

What if she had a stronger sex drive than you .. and you could not keep up with her....? Would you sweat bullets wondering if she's on the prowl, seeking sexual gratification ,,, because your not enough?

 

What's Love Got To Do With It... she needs .... we are talking supply and demand here.............

Your my way or high way theory would be squelched... if her sex drive was

greater than yours.

 

If you ever fall in love ............... true love........... you would wait.

I do not believe all men are skin hounds.

Some are lovers, stable, trustworthy and secure with who they are and who they are with.

 

A little patience and understand, as well as less self-centeredness is important in a relationship.

 

Should she have to live with the fear of; if she does not perform on Q. for you......... you will run down and street and jump in Shelahs bed.

 

Who wants that!

 

I imagine you're young and need to mature. Your hormones are jumping.

Right now your demands are selfish and you can't see it.

 

Your girlfriend is so much more than your expectations of her.

[MrsHellFire]

Yeah I do think women should take some time to at least please their man pretty often, but what are you doing in return? What do you ever do to please her to want her to return the favor?

[Guest]

What if she had a stronger sex drive than you .. and you could not keep up with her....? Would you sweat bullets wondering if she's on the prowl, seeking sexual gratification ,,, because your not enough?

Exactly! A few years down the line, when her sex drive gets stronger and yours weaker (and that WILL happen!) – will it be ok for her to go out and have sex with someone else every time you can’t perform?

 

Men are so sensitive about their ‘performance’, can’t imagine how hurt they would feel if their partner just finds some other penis that CAN perform.

 

See, men are sensitive too. And men are not animals.

We are just not sensitive about the same things.