jan Posted November 1, 2001 Share Posted November 1, 2001 is this normal? when my boyfriend drinks then it seems to be the only time he initiates sex, otherwise we both go to bed together and just go to sleep, but then he tells me that i am not interested in sex anymore, and i told him that he does not make any moves either so i can say the same thing about him. but when he has a couple beers or so then he starts kissing me and that lets me know what he wants, now i tell him that since he don't want me when he does not drink then i don't want him when he does. we have been together for a long time and this is nothing really new, but him telling me that i don't want to make love to him is something new. also he wants like quickies in the a.m. and i don't mind but then he is satisfied for a while and i am left hanging. i don't know how to straighten this out, or why he thinks all of a sudden that i am the one not wanting to make love anymore, that is just not true, he is just as much to blame as i am cause he does not act like he is interested either. thanks for any advice on this subject. Link to post Share on other sites
Cess Posted November 2, 2001 Share Posted November 2, 2001 How is your sex life? Do you have toys? Do you wear sexy nighties? Do either one of you light candles or play sexy music? Try these things and I guarantee a healthier sex life. After you have been with someone for a while things become repetitive. You need to spice it up. Porns, toys, fruits, anything. Try something new. Bust out a new technique every now and again. Surprise him. Tease him. make his desire for you grow until he just can't take it. Men can't think of these things on their own most of the time. Walk around the house in a thong like you have no intentions. Tease! Have some fun. Go buy some handcuffs, blindfolds, anything somewhat naughty. Creams or lotions. SPICE IT UP!!! Sure fire way to please you both. is this normal? when my boyfriend drinks then it seems to be the only time he initiates sex, otherwise we both go to bed together and just go to sleep, but then he tells me that i am not interested in sex anymore, and i told him that he does not make any moves either so i can say the same thing about him. but when he has a couple beers or so then he starts kissing me and that lets me know what he wants, now i tell him that since he don't want me when he does not drink then i don't want him when he does. we have been together for a long time and this is nothing really new, but him telling me that i don't want to make love to him is something new. also he wants like quickies in the a.m. and i don't mind but then he is satisfied for a while and i am left hanging. i don't know how to straighten this out, or why he thinks all of a sudden that i am the one not wanting to make love anymore, that is just not true, he is just as much to blame as i am cause he does not act like he is interested either. thanks for any advice on this subject. Link to post Share on other sites
jan Posted November 2, 2001 Share Posted November 2, 2001 WOW!!! AWESOME IDEAS THANK YOU!!! How is your sex life? Do you have toys? Do you wear sexy nighties? Do either one of you light candles or play sexy music? Try these things and I guarantee a healthier sex life. After you have been with someone for a while things become repetitive. You need to spice it up. Porns, toys, fruits, anything. Try something new. Bust out a new technique every now and again. Surprise him. Tease him. make his desire for you grow until he just can't take it. Men can't think of these things on their own most of the time. Walk around the house in a thong like you have no intentions. Tease! Have some fun. Go buy some handcuffs, blindfolds, anything somewhat naughty. Creams or lotions. SPICE IT UP!!! Sure fire way to please you both. Link to post Share on other sites
venus Posted November 2, 2001 Share Posted November 2, 2001 AMEN CESS!!!! Couldn't have said it better myself! WOW!!! AWESOME IDEAS THANK YOU!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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