jerbear Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 When I was in college (more than 11 years ago) I've met a girl who was the first woman who I really had a crush, infatuation, "love" and out of the blue called 3 months ago when I ended a relationship/friendship with a woman of similar situation. I blew her off, deleted her VM, and she called again today. I do know she just recently divorced and is on a "man hunt". I do not want an "instant" family and do not have any interests in her. I would not date any woman with kids, right now in my stage of life that is. You know it is bad when a guy like me don't even want her as an FB. She was a very needy friend and even used me as a "close friend." Not close anymore and sure not talking to her unless it was bumping into each other. I am quite fine without contact beyond email and just to say hi; which would get deleted and no reply. I even told her that years ago. Of all the NC/LC, I never called her for anything. Funny thing her friends left her because she was a pain in the butt, demanding, and PMSing 24/7. Even the bitchy drama ones of her friends left her. They are still civil but not as close. We bumped into each other at a restaurant awhile back, I don't remember when. It was civil and she got a new car, showed it off only to ask if I had my old car which I said no and she found out I got the top of the line latest and greatest from the same car maker of her car. She even found out that I am getting a MS degree. More prestigious and meeting interesting people. Compared to her H, I made more $$, better educated now. I have since completed my degree this year on time. She same old person, wider, and with 2 kids. Strange thing, she would have choosen me as the godfather of her kids. Her two kids. Thank goodness I did not become the godfather. Another set of friends of mine that I met thru her became the godfather and godmother. both of them have nothing to do with her. Don't god parents have some say in the kids life and maintain some contact OTHER than her idea of just gifts. While she shut them both out. I was apparently good enough for godfather to provide the gifts but not enough to give her the kids. I once tried to restablish a basic friendship over (8?) years ago at a mutual party and she seemed like a better person only to find out she is still the same person when I broke all contact including any possibilities of friendship. Found out she and H were seperated, got together, he did questionable activities, and couldn't hold a job. How do I really tell her that contact for "relationship" under the guise of friendship is not desired? Just ranting... Any suggestions or just blow her off again... like change phone numbers and delete the email addresses. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 LIE to her jerbear. Tell her you have met someone special you are dating now. Make yourself unavailable to her. She is a mess and you surely don't need that, now do you?? I know lying is wrong, but I do think this qualifies as one of those "little white lies". Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerbear Posted June 5, 2006 Author Share Posted June 5, 2006 LIE to her jerbear. Tell her you have met someone special you are dating now. Make yourself unavailable to her. She is a mess and you surely don't need that, now do you?? I know lying is wrong, but I do think this qualifies as one of those "little white lies". Hmm... I like the idea of not being available. I am at a point where I just graduated and looking for new job where it is anywhere other than here. I can say I'm looking for a new job anywhere other than here. Which is the truth. thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 No problemo, amigo! You can also have calls from her to your cell go to automatic voice mail. Most people feel like a pain in the behind leaving too many messages. Happy Relocation Hunting!! Link to post Share on other sites
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