Guest Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 I am currently unemployed and seeking a job,but am thinking of divorce from my husband of 11 years because he's a cheat and a liar.I do not want to leave my townhome I share with him and our 2 children,am I legally able to "kick him out" and keep our residence so we don't uproot the children from their friends and school?He personally saw to it that I lost my last job,and he has patterned this behavior over many years. Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 I dont think you are allowed to kick him out. It would be a lot better if you can convince him to leave on his own. Link to post Share on other sites
Love Hurts Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 We have to be fair in the end. As well as respectful. The only grounds you have to legally remove him are in the event of mental cruelness to you on a daily basis. Or physical violence. Mental cruelty is more difficult to prosecute for certain attorneys. Many will not take your case....... you need an attorney that will take it on. Mental degradation is more damaging than a broken bone or a bruise. Those heal more quickly. The getting you fired is a big one................. he cost you a job. Was it on the job harassment? If so and he flaunts his affair in front of you while you are left to yourself with the chidren. You have enough, to try to get a PFA. I say that with caution.......... I dread a female just getting one of those to throw her husband out on the street on a whim. It happens alot. Have you asked him to leave? If he has made a choice to be with another woman, he should be respectful and leave. You cannot file for divorce unless you have been legally separated. It is easier for him to get a small room or live with his significant other than it is for you to uproot the children. When you are certain you are through....... and he maintains his lifestyle with another female. An unwelcome threesome is mental cruelty to you. You can get a PFA and have him removed. The courts will direct you into the steps you must take from there. Be prepared... all hell breaks loose once you file. This stuff gets real ugly. I do not envy you. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 While he's at work ~ change the locks on all the doors, and when he tries to get in, ask through the locked door ~ "Do I know you?" You can fend amenesia for a good two ~ three months ~ easy! Call the Health Department ~ and tell them you've got bird flu ~ and need the quaratine your townhome. Get a copy of the "John and Lorrena Bobbit ~ The Un-told story" with a straight razor lying next to it on the kitchen table. Rent "She~Devil" with Suzane Barr ~ "War of The Roses" with Michael Douglas to get the old creative imagination going. Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 It really depends upon what legal jurisdiction you live in. I assume you can't afford an attorney so try a Google search like "divorce services" <put your area here> just the way it is in bold here and see if the sites have a FAQ (frequently asked questions) section. Maybe your questions will be answered there. Link to post Share on other sites
CryingCanuck Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 Seriously though, you can't simply kick the guy out usually regardless of who's name is on the lease, but you can ask him to leave telling him your feelings, and if he in the least, suggests violence, wham he's outa there...... US guy's are screwed off the bat, and deservedly so in most cases. The Police in most jurisdictions will take the woman's side at least for the first night and take him away or give him the choice of leaving on his own, no fuss no muss, spousal abuse or the threat of such deserves harsh treatment and penalties...Then following that, you may get a court order the very next day using a court appointed lawyer to have him removed with a restraining order until the courts decide what to do. But !!!!! is that what you really want to do? Maybe ask him to leave and he will do that....on his own. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted June 5, 2006 Share Posted June 5, 2006 You mention your kids - being married for 11 years, I will assume they are that age or younger. Please remember that whatever happens between you and your husband will play out in front of the kids, one way or another. You are already correctly thinking about what is best for the children - keep your focus on that as you move forward in the process with your husband. I think (?!) Gunny was being facetious, but if you end up changing locks and feigning amnesia, you are touching off a horribly unbalancing drama for your kids to have to deal with. If there's any way you can take the stand you need to take for yourself and yet still be an adult and keep your dignity (and allow everyone else the best chance at keeping theirs), you will be serving your kids' best interests as well as yours. See a lawyer, take control, and do it "properly", so that you can show your kids how adults - mature ones anyway - handle difficult situations. I've said this to others before: your spouse may not deserve this kind of consideration, but your kids do. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 I think (?!) Gunny was being facetious, Yes I was being facetious. The first time I'd ever heard that word a LT. told my CO, that I was being facetious ~ he told him ~ "No! He's just being his regular self ~ an azzhole! LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 You mention your kids - being married for 11 years, I will assume they are that age or younger. Please remember that whatever happens between you and your husband will play out in front of the kids, one way or another. You are already correctly thinking about what is best for the children - keep your focus on that as you move forward in the process with your husband. I think (?!) Gunny was being facetious, but if you end up changing locks and feigning amnesia, you are touching off a horribly unbalancing drama for your kids to have to deal with. If there's any way you can take the stand you need to take for yourself and yet still be an adult and keep your dignity (and allow everyone else the best chance at keeping theirs), you will be serving your kids' best interests as well as yours. See a lawyer, take control, and do it "properly", so that you can show your kids how adults - mature ones anyway - handle difficult situations. I've said this to others before: your spouse may not deserve this kind of consideration, but your kids do. Yes, I was just being goofy! Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Quote: Originally Posted by Trimmer ...I think (?!) Gunny was being facetious.... Yes, I was just being goofy! Figured as much, but I'm sure it's all been tried at one time or another! Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Figured as much, but I'm sure it's all been tried at one time or another! Actually ~ I was being an azz ~ but facetious works ~ Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 "Failure to Launch" find him some gal that will throw him for a loop, get him to fall head over heads "in love" with, and then when he gives you the speech ~ "I'm leaving! I've found true ever lasting love! And, frankly Scarlet I don't give a damn what you do!" Sounds like a "win~win" to me? Link to post Share on other sites
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