Guest Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 I have meet my bf online and we were friends for several months before being bf/gf. We have been together now for nearly 10 months. During that time he has visited me twice. Both times were great and everything felt good, but lately it has felt different. Things got out of control where we both needed time to ourselves to think things out. At first, he wanted some contact with me. Like we would still talk on occasions and do stuff together online, but that just started getting awkward for me. I felt my emotions were up and down because sometimes I felt everything was okay, then other times I knew something was wrong still. So I finally decided to break contact with him for the both of us to get time to ourselves to think clearly. So now it has been 4-5 days now since that start of no real contact. I have done a lot of thinking and I felt I have thought enough to know what I want and what the problem might be between us. I sent him one little letter on the 2nd day to say that I miss him and I hope he was well. He sent me a message back saying, he liked the message. Just yesterday I sent him a long letter telling him how I felt. I sent it hoping that it might help him in his search for what answers he needs. My question is, what are peoples past experience in how long they had a break for to sort their minds? Did it result in break up or did things work out? I am worried that the longer he thinks, the more it means that he will not want to be with me anymore. He has said before the break that he loves me, but can he fall out of love during the break? It hurts not knowing what has been on his mind and how he feels. It hurts not knowing how I stand with him anymore. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
tearful_soul22 Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 2 months of time apart and it didn't work out unfortunately. the relationship was complicated and we simply just drifted apart. it's been 8 months now since that breakup. but, don't let my story bring you down. everyone is different and who knows you might have better luck than i do. i wish you the best and i hope everything works out between the two of you goodluck!! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 16, 2006 Share Posted June 16, 2006 Well, unfortunately, after about a week, he broke up with me. He said he still loved me but the distance complicated things and that I hurt him from some of the complications. (Not like he didn't hurt me too...) After some talking later that day, we did get back together. As to how long it will last now I don't know. It will always be in the back of my head that he gave up and couldn't talk about things when I have tried to be very open with him. Only time will tell. I care for him deeply and although the breakup hurt a lot, I am trying to get past it the best I can. I fear that if we don't have closer arrangements in the near (very near) future, he will give up again. The ball is in his court now and if he doesn't put the effort in, it will go nowhere. This won't be a relationship that can withstand 2 years of ldr. We are near approaching 1 year. The next get together will be me going to visit him, but since he doesn't have a place of his own, a hotel will take a while to save up for depending on how long a visit it will be. The problem is now that since we split the expenses 50/50 the ball is in his court if he wants to set a date since he needs to save up for it and I have already saved quite a bit up already. Ah, the fun of ldr.... Link to post Share on other sites
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