carter24 Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Hi All.I'm 28 and have been in a relationship with my now fiancee who is 24. For the last two years we have lived with her parents. We have always slept in seperate beds in seperate rooms as per her fathers' conditions.Even since we became engaged six months ago his stance on us sleeping in the same bed has not changed. We still have to sleep in seperate beds. His conditions are not based on religion as they are not religious people. We are lucky to make love once every three to four months because of these restraints and we cannot afford to regulary stay in motels. I think it is now starting to effect our relationship. If we were considerably younger I could totally understand these restrictions however we are 28 and 24 respectively - we are not kids anymore. Any suggestions on how I can deal with this situation?? Link to post Share on other sites
Forever Searching Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 move out. I mean that's the only way I guess. Why are you living with her parents? Link to post Share on other sites
Sand&Water Posted June 6, 2006 Share Posted June 6, 2006 Have you ever thought about moving out. Save up some money, and get your own apartment. That's the only way to remove yourself from the situation. Otherwise, keep living in her parents' house. You can't expect fate to do all the work. Link to post Share on other sites
Author carter24 Posted June 6, 2006 Author Share Posted June 6, 2006 Thanks for your reply. We are living with her parents so we can save some money. I have just bought a house but it is not livable at present as a couple of major reno's are required. So it will still prob be a couple of months before we can move out. It just feels like it's never going to end. Link to post Share on other sites
BeFree Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 Well it sounds like you have a plan with the house, you just need to be patient. In the meantime, doiny it in the car my have to be good enough. As bad as that sounds. Don't get frustrated and give up you have just a couple of months left. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
ronnieromance Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 Well, you have the house...sort of. Stick it out. Then stick it in. -R- Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 If you are living with her parents, then you live by their rules. 24 and 28 seems old for restrictions like that because 24 and 28 is old to still live with someone's parents. It is very generous of them to let you live there, and you really have no right to complain. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 Either find a way to find a cheap place to rent, maybe with some friends, or consider moving in with your folks. That's insane, you two are engaged! It's obvious that he has issues with his daughter having sex in HIS house. That is what all that's about. What would happen if you guys DID sleep in the same bed? Would he kick you two out? Get mad? I'm just curious... Link to post Share on other sites
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