lovelifelots Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 ok guys....... have you ever had a F**k friend? all you wanted was the sex! no relationship.... just sex! when and how you want it? but only with 1 regular partner!!!........can ppl really just do this, without becoming attached? let me know what you think:cool: Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 Well IMO I guess it could work. But personally I don't think I could do it without getting feelings involved. Usually at least one person becomes more attatched than the other in a sitution like that I would imagine, but not sure. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 ok guys....... have you ever had a F**k friend? all you wanted was the sex! no relationship.... just sex! when and how you want it? but only with 1 regular partner!!!........can ppl really just do this, without becoming attached? let me know what you think:cool: I have had several of these in the past, and lemme tell ya, its risky business!! Not only risking your health, (since you cant be sure if he is being exclusive w/you since you guys are only "friends") but there is always that risk of falling for them. This happened to me. I had done the FWB thing for a while and so when I met him, I thought that it would be just like all the others. Boy was I wrong. I fell head over heals... its a long story but long story short, we both were hurt in the end, it ended pretty badly. It sucks to be falling in love with someone who you are "just a f***" to. Generally, I do not suggest it. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 .....can ppl really just do this, without becoming attached? let me know what you think:cool: more men can than women. Females tend to get attached. It can work short-term but not long-term. Link to post Share on other sites
stillhere Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 I agree, more men than women can do it. I've had a few, but usually, the men were the ones that got attached. Not me. I guess because once i made up my mind that all i wanted them for was sex, a relationship or feelings never popped into my head. Yeah, it can work, but don't make it long term, too much time to get attached. Link to post Share on other sites
Jools Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 I don't think i could do it myself, if they were a good friend then we would obviously like each other, get on etc and if your then gonna be sleeping with each other then it would be very easy and probably inevitable that we would become closer. But thats just me. My gf was a good friend before but we decided to have a relationship and not the whole bed buddys thing, i'm ok with the former but like i say, dont think i could do the latter. Link to post Share on other sites
Carlthecoffeeaddict Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 been there done that im a guy yes i was exclusive with her, but she wasn't with me......risky you have sex all night, cuddle, sleep together, then in the morning when you show emotion she will tug away/or just pretend that nothing ever happened. harsh eventually one gets feelings for the other. in this case, me for her. but since some women do this, they easily shut off possiblity of relationship wtih a FWB. its dumb- and a waste of time. its a short term thing, for pleasure, but eventually after F*cking for a while you start to wonder why youre doing this.....why she is only f*cking you and not pursuing you emotionally. Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 more men can than women. Females tend to get attached. It can work short-term but not long-term. agreed, i tried this out but she got attached real quick Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 8, 2006 Share Posted June 8, 2006 agreed, i tried this out but she got attached real quick If the OP has made up her mind she just wants sex from someone, then I beleive she can detach herself. Women can do this. I did it with several men, men that ended up having feelings for me, and I ended up dumping for them. But, man or women, if you do it over and over again eventually u will fall for someone. JMO Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 10, 2006 Share Posted June 10, 2006 I also have done this-only once and never again. It started as fun and that's it. We are both in long-term relationships so when we both became attached, it was really difficult. He got a bit freaked out about it all and sorta just stopped talking. Said he felt "guilty." We also both work together so there were several uncomfortable moments. The wierd thing is that after a month or so, I guess he wasn't feeling so "guilty" anymore. The flirting began and 6 months later, so did the same old stuff. My heart broke the first time and I'm certain it will again. I try to forget about it and move on but it is SO hard. I'm still strugling with it everyday. Knowing what I know now, I wish I had never started any relationship with him in the first place. Link to post Share on other sites
lynni31 Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 I did it for two years.. we would go back and forth one of us wanting more every once in a while, in the two years I was seeing him we did not have one single arguement, we had the convenience of a relationship without the relationship. I don't think either one of us was seeing anyone else, but I think we both were doing it as a way to avoid a real relationship. We were always there for each other , I always knew I had him to fall back on if I needed him and the same for him. I am the one that broke things off because I decided I needed and deserved more, I think both parties must be fully aware of what they are doing and question why they would want to do it in the first place. Link to post Share on other sites
ashnicole Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 It all depends on the person. It doesn't work with me, because I put more into sex than "wow, he's really good at it." I need more of an emotional attachment to be THAT intimate with someone. To each their own. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 I think the same thing applies here as to opposite sex friends. The more time you spend with someone the more one of you might become attached. You both might go into it wanting just sex but one of you will probably want more, at some point. Once emotions come into play the friendship is done. Link to post Share on other sites
scobro Posted June 12, 2006 Share Posted June 12, 2006 I think it's something people who are emotionally unavailable for relationships can do no problem.I am a guy and I view sex as an intimate bonding with someone who you are in a relationship with or at least dating regularly and exclusive.I wouldn't want to sleep with a woman who is just viewing me as a "bang".I am more a relationship kinda guy.If I was in my early 20s might look at it a bit different but being single at 35 I feel more like I am looking for a relationship than just casual sex with someone who could give a s*** if I was alive the next morning:D . Link to post Share on other sites
little_girl Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 i have a fk buddy 4 a couple of months now & so far it has worked but who knows what the future holds 4 any of us!! believe me my world was turned upside down 6 months ago & i realized that life is 2 short 2 sweat the small stuff & i'm not sure i want anything but a fk buddy these daz!! but i also don't want 2 hurt anyone in the process either! so i hope it works 4 as long as i'm around!! :eek: :rolleyes: Link to post Share on other sites
j.carsey Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 It's not for everyone, but if it's for you why not. I totally agree life is too short to sweat the small stuff Carpe diem my friends Link to post Share on other sites
little_girl Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 thanx 4 the support!! i'm just trying 2 get some enjoyment out of this thing we call life cuz who know's what happens after we leave this world? i sure hope there is something better but if not i'm going 2 make the most of it now!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
j.carsey Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 Yup I also seek enjoyment while I'm still alive. But remember that things like sour complications to casual sex gone bad, is not good for enjoying life (disease, emotional distress). So if you go down a casual sex route do it carefully and make sure you back out if you sense things are going wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
little_girl Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 most definetley have 2 b careful these daz with who u sleep with, well i would'nt call it sleeping, at least not what iv'e done with my friend. there's no time 2 sleep. i'm always careful though & i try not 2 get 2 emotionally involved which isn't always ez! Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 It's really hard to do if you're not the kind of person that can have casual sex. Even if you know the person isn't relationship material, if you can't rationalize your way out of your emotions then it's really tough to maintain a f*buddy relationship. If you're the kind of person that doesn't tie emotion and sex together then I don't see why it couldn't work. Link to post Share on other sites
little_girl Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 so far so good! i guess when & if the time comes that i can't handle what's happening then i'll have 2 change it, but 4 now it seems 2 b ok, really ok. we have been able 2 remain friends & talk about other things than just us & when were going 2 get together again. we sometimes aren't able 2 c each other 4 a couple of weeks, & all we do is talk or email, & i'm ok with that. why even i don't have an answer 2 that?? Link to post Share on other sites
vi_pn_babe25 Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 I've been in an f buddy relationship for a year now. We talk on the phone and see each other every week. But we've also had our ups and downs. Whenever we go out to clubs or bars together, we tend to show our jealousy since we're just "friends". So we had a big discussion about that, and it kinda blew up, I told him that I wanted more, and even though he said he liked and loved me, he said he didn't want to jump into anything too soon because he just got out of a bad relationship, (so did I) After that I was really confused and we took a break for about a month, and that's when I started seeing other people. But I really started to miss him because we're good friends. So we got back into contact about a month later and now we're back to seeing each other evey week or weekend. Still though, I'm not sure where it's going to lead. Link to post Share on other sites
little_girl Posted June 15, 2006 Share Posted June 15, 2006 what may b right 4 some may not b 4 others! maybe there r more then we know who have "fk buddies". all i know is it was i who approached this guy about having a "friend with benefits" after we were just co-workers & then friends & then lovers. i never thought i could do it, but i have & it has worked 4 us, cuz we both knew the conditions b 4 it all happened, & we discussed it a some length, & then it just happened 1 day & has been good ever since. i believe it can work if u know what each other expects & u respect that & don't try 2 make more of it then there really is! the emotional thing is the hard part & so far i've accomplished that! i care about him alot, but i value r friendship first & the other is a benefit 4 as long as we have it!! Link to post Share on other sites
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