tat2d_harley Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 I have been with my boyfriend (who is 9 yrs older than myself) for almost 6 years now. He just moved into my house with me and my 13 yr old daugheter in Feb.. His 15 yr old comes every other weekend, which before he moved in with me, I would stay away on those weekends at his house. Well now she is comming to my house those weekends, and has since decided to want to spend the summer. I agreed to a week at a time every other week. My home is a 2 br 1 bath about 890 sq ft. NOT a large home at all. So my kid has to share her space ect. He pays 875 a month in child support. And when his daughter is here, she brings no money, and this past weekend, she took my daughters makeup, and wanted to use my $30 a bottle hair gel. So am I being unreasonable asking that she bring some money, her OWN hair products, makeup, ect. when she comes? The ex-wife is now taking him to court over 1 month or so back support. My ex-husband owes me $25,000 in back support, but since he has no job, liscense, home ect. they can't seem to find him. My boyfriend whom just moved in, owns a company(small company 2 employees) and so the child support peeps are on his arse to pay this 1 mnth(which she turned him over for) they can take his company liscenses and driver's ect. It's killing me that I have to deal with his child in my home (she has been not nice to me or my child before now) and this money crap going on, and her wanting to use our stuff. I feel it's so petty, but it angers me in a way I can't explain. Does anyone understand, or am I crazy? Link to post Share on other sites
AManWithTroubles Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 The daughter he pays child support to is living with him/you right now, and she wants money for it? Am I getting this right. Sorry, but this system really stinks. They should have allowances for deferred payments while the child is not with the spouse who receives payments. Otherwise, it is more than likely used as spouse support. Whatever the case, I would say, try not to take these angers out on the young child. It's probably difficult enough as it is being her, between two parents living separately. Other than that, I have no clue, because I have never been in such a situation, coming from parents who stayed together, and not yet separating in my own marriage. I've seen it within my family in other places, and I can only imagine what the children must go through. Link to post Share on other sites
climbergirl Posted June 7, 2006 Share Posted June 7, 2006 I have been with my boyfriend (who is 9 yrs older than myself) for almost 6 years now. He just moved into my house with me and my 13 yr old daugheter in Feb.. His 15 yr old comes every other weekend, which before he moved in with me, I would stay away on those weekends at his house. Well now she is comming to my house those weekends, and has since decided to want to spend the summer. I agreed to a week at a time every other week. My home is a 2 br 1 bath about 890 sq ft. NOT a large home at all. So my kid has to share her space ect. He pays 875 a month in child support. And when his daughter is here, she brings no money, and this past weekend, she took my daughters makeup, and wanted to use my $30 a bottle hair gel. So am I being unreasonable asking that she bring some money, her OWN hair products, makeup, ect. when she comes? The ex-wife is now taking him to court over 1 month or so back support. My ex-husband owes me $25,000 in back support, but since he has no job, liscense, home ect. they can't seem to find him. My boyfriend whom just moved in, owns a company(small company 2 employees) and so the child support peeps are on his arse to pay this 1 mnth(which she turned him over for) they can take his company liscenses and driver's ect. It's killing me that I have to deal with his child in my home (she has been not nice to me or my child before now) and this money crap going on, and her wanting to use our stuff. I feel it's so petty, but it angers me in a way I can't explain. Does anyone understand, or am I crazy? You're being petty. Remember that in his mind his child is just as important as yours....and if you love him you would want to embrace her as much as your own and consider her as equally important as your daughter. Does your daughter pay for her own hair products (I can't believe I'm even typing this)? If your ex isn't even paying for support, doesn't that mean that your b/f is essentially picking up the slack for your ex-and doesn't that mean that his daughter is entitled to some hair products?? Sounds ridiculous, huh? Get over it and start accepting her as your family! BTW-it's not just your home now. Your statement that you'll only agree to every other week is a very spiteful, selfish and immature view. Oh, unless you told your ex that you would only agree to having your child every other week instead of the whole summer! Link to post Share on other sites
Author tat2d_harley Posted June 8, 2006 Author Share Posted June 8, 2006 I can see what you're saying( the reason I asked if it was petty) however, my bf whom I consider this his home, had me pay him back for things we both use here. And he does not purchase any of our hair products ect. And my ex( my childs father) doesn't see her, any weekends. I suppose the fact that his child took things from here of ours makes no difference either. Remember, my child is going through this as well, her space, life ect has been interrupted, and she shouldn't have to deal with his childs problems with taking her makeup, ect. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tat2d_harley Posted June 8, 2006 Author Share Posted June 8, 2006 and yes my child buys her own products ect., she works to make money ( trying to teach her responsibility) Link to post Share on other sites
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