Mike Posted November 5, 2001 Share Posted November 5, 2001 Im in a right old pickle. I have been seeing a girl for several months now, and she is *still* in a 2 year relationship with another guy. He is away on work at the moment and we see each other all the time. We sleep work and do everything together and have recently told each other that we love each other. However, i suspect she is unwilling to give up the other man as he has been around for a long time (2 years like i mentioned before) I dont know WHAT to do, and i dont think i can confront her about it even though it is cutting me up. Help !! Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted November 5, 2001 Share Posted November 5, 2001 Whoa... if u'r not upto being just a fling-guy for her, u'll have to confront her about it... but watch out - break ups after long relnships are tough, and u might lose her, at least temporarily... this is dangerous stuff... u'r much more likely to be happy if u find yrself a nice single gal to go with... good luck Im in a right old pickle. I have been seeing a girl for several months now, and she is *still* in a 2 year relationship with another guy. He is away on work at the moment and we see each other all the time. We sleep work and do everything together and have recently told each other that we love each other. However, i suspect she is unwilling to give up the other man as he has been around for a long time (2 years like i mentioned before) I dont know WHAT to do, and i dont think i can confront her about it even though it is cutting me up. Help !! Link to post Share on other sites
Ed Posted November 5, 2001 Share Posted November 5, 2001 I agree with "yes". You may be a lot better off dating someone who is not extensively attached to someone else. My advice is dependent upon one very important point. You know about the other guy, but does the other guy know about you? The subject of your post indicates he does not. If she is seeing you and she is supposed to be committed to him, then I would not give her the option. Iwould just tell her it's over and move on. If he cannot trust her to be faithful when she has agreed to it, how could you? If he does know about you, then you are on fair ground. By all means, tell her you want to move toward a more committed relationship and take it from there. If she says she wants to keep seeing both of you, then you will have to decide if you want to keep seeing her. If she says she wants to see only you, well, I guess you win! Link to post Share on other sites
BeenThere Posted November 6, 2001 Share Posted November 6, 2001 Quite simply...it doesn't seem she has any integrity. Ever wonder what her boyfriend has that you don't? Or what you have that her boyfreiend doesn't? Obviously her needs aren't being fulfilled by either one of you, so she's decided to take the easiest way out...by NOT choosing. And why should she? She obviously doesn't have too! So the question remains...are YOU willing to continue sharing her with another man? Or can you muster enough self worth to let go and wait until you find someone who is completely satisfied with YOU? It's only my humble opionion, but no one should ever settle for being *second best*. If she truely loved you, there would be no need for this post... Im in a right old pickle. I have been seeing a girl for several months now, and she is *still* in a 2 year relationship with another guy. He is away on work at the moment and we see each other all the time. We sleep work and do everything together and have recently told each other that we love each other. However, i suspect she is unwilling to give up the other man as he has been around for a long time (2 years like i mentioned before) I dont know WHAT to do, and i dont think i can confront her about it even though it is cutting me up. Help !! Link to post Share on other sites
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