donpepot Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 Here's a list of what NOT to do if your girlfriend is breaking up with you. 1) Do NOT fight with her. Fighting ALWAYS creates tension and kills attraction. Fighting with a woman is useless. Even if you win the argument, you will still lose the war. 2) Do NOT try to use logic to show her why she should come back to you. Love is based on FEELINGS, not logic. No matter how brilliant your logic is, she's still going to leave you. 3) Do NOT reassure your ex that you have "changed" so things will be "different from now on". It's like trying to bail water out of a sinking boat. It won't work. The hole is still there and your words are not going to mend it. 4) Do NOT keep telling her you love her. She won't care. All a woman cares about is how much SHE loves YOU...not the other way around!) 5) Do NOT beg her to come back. The more you beg, the more she will ignore you. 6) Do NOT try to make her feel guilty about leaving you. (Examples: "I can't work without you." and "Don't break up with me during exam period...") It won't work. It will only make her DREAD being with you even more. 7) Do not act depressed so they will feel bad for you. Sympathy does NOT equal ATTRACTION! 8) Do NOT talk to her friends to win their support. All she cares is how SHE fees about you. Even if her friends love you, they can't make her love you forever. External pressure never lasts longer. If your girl decides to stay with you, her motivation has to come from WITHIN. 9) Do NOT spend money on gifts and flowers for her. You can't buy her heart back with money. 10) Do NOT push her into getting back with you. The more you push, the more she will PULL AWAY. These are the most common mistakes guys make during a breakup. Trust me, you don't want to do ANY of these things. If you do, I can guarantee you your relationship will be doomed. You probably won't even get a chance to kiss your girlfriend goodbye, let alone get her back. Link to post Share on other sites
thekhris Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 damn i wish i heard that before now its too late good points...i just dont get it ..why girls behave like that like when you beg or show to them you love them so much or show to them that youre loosing your life without them instead of make their heart soft the usually get irritated... i thought that is the reason why she loved me but when she dumps you...begging to her is like taking a scuicide.... there is girl in my past who begged me to give her another chance and it touched my heart completely and love her more ...but to girls begging to them is pushing ger away even further... i wish there is a honest girl who can explain this to me... why girls behave like that... Link to post Share on other sites
RealBroken Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 yeah ive taken a girl back coz she's begged. i know plenty of guys that have done the same...... they get touched by it. Guys have a big NEED in relationships....... its called "feeling NEEDED" Girls ARE NOT THE SAME. Thats where us guys can go wrong. Girls want confident and safe men. therefore NO CONTACT. I can live happy without you. That usually gets to them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 Girls ARE NOT THE SAME. Thats where us guys can go wrong. Girls want confident and safe men. QUOTE] AMEN to THAT statement! Link to post Share on other sites
RealBroken Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 OH MY GOD........... SOMEONE AGREED WITH ME ON THIS FORUM!!!! WHOOOO HOOOO HA HA HA. Huhhh, i learn that info too late though. At least in know now i guess. Is stupid how men arent allowed to go through any lows in life though, their bloody women will leave them! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 I can guarantee you your relationship will be doomed. I'm afraid the relationship is doomed at the point you break up... Link to post Share on other sites
Author donpepot Posted June 9, 2006 Author Share Posted June 9, 2006 yah.. but i hope its not that too late and i hope if there is guy still doing this stuff atleast he will knw the reason why he must stop it...lets hope he dose not push it too far ,,,to far to get her back again... Link to post Share on other sites
RealBroken Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 'ART CRITIC' your cup is always half EMPTY. Seems you are bitter. I know several people that have broken up,.... to then later recdoncile and then marry! My parents included. 40 years. I dont think ive ever seen u say something nice on this forum. Link to post Share on other sites
RealBroken Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 Woman dont want a guy whos needs them. Almost sounds contradictory doesnt it. Life is really funny in this aspect. if you wanna keep someone, pretend you dont. How dumb! But i guess its the way. Link to post Share on other sites
ronnieromance Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 My friend broke it down to me in the spirit of what you said, but somewhat more succinctly. He said simply, "Sometimes you have to reverse the polarity." Super true. All of it. -R- Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 'ART CRITIC' your cup is always half EMPTY. Seems you are bitter. I know several people that have broken up,.... to then later recdoncile and then marry! My parents included. 40 years. I dont think ive ever seen u say something nice on this forum. Are you calling me out ??? My cup isn't half empty or half full.. and I'm far from bitter. You totally missed the point of my post.. If you are broken up.. that is the worst it can be.. right ?? Broken up means broken up.. it doesn't broken up but I still love you and want to get back together with you next month How old are you ?? generally young inexperienced people have the attitude that all it takes is love.. Sometimes people are just not meant to be together.. no matter how romantic the dumpee wants life to be Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 I dont think ive ever seen u say something nice on this forum. I will ask you nicely this once.. get off my back.. Look up my posts.. they are not full of hatred or negativity.. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 'ART CRITIC' your cup is always half EMPTY. Seems you are bitter. I know several people that have broken up,.... to then later recdoncile and then marry! My parents included. 40 years. I dont think ive ever seen u say something nice on this forum. A_C is Always nice to me! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 A_C is Always nice to me! thanks LB.. I hate when people try and provoke crap.. Nobody has to agree with me or even take my advice.. but attacking and posting a different viewpoint are 2 different things Link to post Share on other sites
rkman Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 thanks LB.. I hate when people try and provoke crap.. Nobody has to agree with me or even take my advice.. but attacking and posting a different viewpoint are 2 different things I recommend therapy for this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 generally young inexperienced people have the attitude that all it takes is love.. Sometimes people are just not meant to be together.. no matter how romantic the dumpee wants life to be I definitely agree that you have to be very naieve and live in a bit of a fantasyland to think that love is all you need and it will conquer all. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 I recommend therapy for this thread. and who are you...... some sort of advisor! :laugh: Hahaha...... kidding! Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 Even if you follow ALLL those steps, chances are she still may not come back. Nothing bitter about being realistic. Link to post Share on other sites
thekhris Posted June 11, 2006 Share Posted June 11, 2006 Of corz everyone has free will...but the point of the tread here is what not to do if she dumps you... she may not come and she may..but doing all the given tips there will surely be a big help of chance of reconcilitaion... its better to have a big chance than no chance at all.. damn good points! Link to post Share on other sites
Author donpepot Posted June 11, 2006 Author Share Posted June 11, 2006 im glad everyone understand what im trying to say to this tread... Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 I am just a guest here. I found this website recently and so far your post has been the most helpful to me. I violated almost every single point in there. I didnt know that it work like that. They are so true that my ex GF that has my 2 mo child went from really digging me to almost hating me and still pulling away. I thought by expressing my feelings (which I didnt before, at all) would get her closer to me. I thought that was what she wanted to hear to feel comfort but it made it worse. Now I get it...now I know what not to do. I will let you know if they work for me. thanx Link to post Share on other sites
Author donpepot Posted June 13, 2006 Author Share Posted June 13, 2006 and im glad your read it at the "not too late timing" Link to post Share on other sites
Author donpepot Posted June 13, 2006 Author Share Posted June 13, 2006 "Sometimes you have to reverse the polarity." TRUE!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
katherine123 Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 That's really interesting cuz like I've had guys beg for me to give them another chance even to the point of where they went stalker on me because I wouldn't take them back. Me and my friends all have done the same thing though, if we're dating a guy and aren't ready to end the relationship and he wants to, i know it's devious but all women have to do is tell a guy not to leave, cough up some tears, and voila guess who still has a boyfriend. I know it's a dirty tactic, but women can get away with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 but women can get away with it. Pussy is power... Link to post Share on other sites
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