What Not To Do If She Dumps You

[thekhris]

That's really interesting cuz like I've had guys beg for me to give them another chance even to the point of where they went stalker on me because I wouldn't take them back. Me and my friends all have done the same thing though, if we're dating a guy and aren't ready to end the relationship and he wants to, i know it's devious but all women have to do is tell a guy not to leave, cough up some tears, and voila guess who still has a boyfriend. I know it's a dirty tactic, but women can get away with it.

The whole deal with women and their games can be a complicated affair. Women have rules and games they play with guys, most of which they learn at a young age. They learn how to manipulate their fathers with cuteness, tantrums and compliments, and soon realise that this same stuff works on most guys. This is further taught and encouraged in their teen magazines and from various media sources of feminist propaganda (Sex and the City springs to mind) aimed at giving power to women.

 

The best way to counteract this is to learn their games and their rules. In doing this, we can prepare, learn how to turn them to our favour, and not least, we can get some insight into their thinking.

[KNE10]

Here's a list of what NOT to do if your girlfriend is

breaking up with you.

 

 

1) Do NOT fight with her. Fighting ALWAYS creates tension and kills attraction. Fighting with a woman is useless. Even if you win the argument, you will still lose the war.

2) Do NOT try to use logic to show her why she should come back to you. Love is based on FEELINGS, not logic. No matter how brilliant your logic is, she's still going to leave you.

3) Do NOT reassure your ex that you have "changed" so things will be "different from now on". It's like trying to bail water out of a sinking boat. It won't work. The hole is still there and your words are not going to mend it.

4) Do NOT keep telling her you love her. She won't care. All a woman cares about is how much SHE loves YOU...not the other way around!)

5) Do NOT beg her to come back. The more you beg, the more she will ignore you.

6) Do NOT try to make her feel guilty about leaving you.

(Examples: "I can't work without you." and "Don't break up

with me during exam period...") It won't work. It will only make her DREAD being with you even more.

7) Do not act depressed so they will feel bad for you. Sympathy does NOT equal ATTRACTION!

8) Do NOT talk to her friends to win their support. All she cares is how SHE fees about you. Even if her friends love you,

they can't make her love you forever. External pressure never lasts longer. If your girl decides to stay with you, her motivation has to come from WITHIN.

9) Do NOT spend money on gifts and flowers for her. You can't buy her heart back with money.

10) Do NOT push her into getting back with you. The more you push, the more she will PULL AWAY.

 

I don't believe that i did all 10 of these!!!!! Talk about doomed relationship. I can believe that i reacted so foolishly.... What a loser i was. Next time this happens i will be more prepared.

[donpepot]

I don't believe that i did all 10 of these!!!!! Talk about doomed relationship. I can believe that i reacted so foolishly.... What a loser i was. Next time this happens i will be more prepared.

 

 

dont worry ..99 percent of guys in this world did that too..to feel bad about your self too much

 

but its not that hopeless

[thekhris]

dont worry ..99 percent of guys in this world did that too..to feel bad about your self too much

 

but its not that hopeless

lolz..when my ex broke up with me..i did 1,2,3,4,5,6,7 and 10...lolz...but i win her back...

[Thursday_le]

lolz..when my ex broke up with me..i did 1,2,3,4,5,6,7 and 10...lolz...but i win her back...

 

Thats amazing man. I hope I can do the same and win my ex back someday. Do you have a thread on your story?

[spinnelli]

I think it just depends on the reason why she broke up with you in the first place. A person can be way over you before they physically initiate a break-up, in which case, doing these 10 things or the complete opposite of them will not make her take you back...that's called "indifference". When a woman reaches that stage, it's over for good.

[beangirl46]

hmm, I don't know. I'm a girl, and I've taken a certain guy back after he begged once, another time after he said he changed, and another time after he kept saying how much he loved me. And when he sounded desperate or needy, I definitely felt for him and wanted to do everything I could so he wouldn't feel that way.

 

But then, I really loved him, you see.

[whir]

hmm, I don't know. I'm a girl, and I've taken a certain guy back after he begged once, another time after he said he changed, and another time after he kept saying how much he loved me. And when he sounded desperate or needy, I definitely felt for him and wanted to do everything I could so he wouldn't feel that way.

 

But then, I really loved him, you see.

 

 

well i think im beguining to understand the clear formula of all..

you see there are two kinds of break ups..

 

1.been dump by a girl that still knows that you love her(which is the most common thing anyway,hell just look around you)

 

2.been dump bcoz the girl thinks you did not love her(which is very rare)

 

when the break up of scenario no.1 happens to you this tread and its advices fits to you..

 

when the break up scenario no.2 happens to you,Of corz what you need to do is buy her flowers and tell her how much you love her and make her feel that you really love her...

[Guest7]

Hi all,

 

I thought such forums suck, but I found this thread and I think we can really help each other now.

 

Actually I don't feel like talking to anyone but:

 

INTELLIGENT guys who WILL NOT let her go in the long-term perspective because she plays/played a way too important role in their lives

 

So I don't mean all those who opt for "relax, find yourself another puxxy". Some of us represent a higher level than this.

 

I have done the things from the list and I don't think it was a mistake, I'm applying a very sophisticated strategy and I'd like to discuss such games with those interested. This thread contains a big deal of truth, but also a great amount of very mistaken generalizations.

 

The question is what tactics to apply in certain cases, as well in mine as in yours. There's a lot of customization needed here. But it is true that girls would organize a mass protest against what we're saying here.

[whir]

Hi all,

 

I thought such forums suck, but I found this thread and I think we can really help each other now.

 

Actually I don't feel like talking to anyone but:

 

INTELLIGENT guys who WILL NOT let her go in the long-term perspective because she plays/played a way too important role in their lives

 

So I don't mean all those who opt for "relax, find yourself another puxxy". Some of us represent a higher level than this.

 

I have done the things from the list and I don't think it was a mistake, I'm applying a very sophisticated strategy and I'd like to discuss such games with those interested. This thread contains a big deal of truth, but also a great amount of very mistaken generalizations.

 

The question is what tactics to apply in certain cases, as well in mine as in yours. There's a lot of customization needed here. But it is true that girls would organize a mass protest against what we're saying here.

 

yah..like the one of the senior posters said its not about play its about doing the right thing...

[Guest]

hope there's a topic named as what NOT to do when HE dumps you or what to DO when HE dumps you. any advices for the girls. anyone

[thekhris]

yah..agreed...male and female psychology is completely different...

[thekhris]

i have an gf whom i dump and beg to me and manage me to turn me back..

 

i think that is the reason why guys do the begging...bcoz that is what they think would work on them if som1 they dump would do somthing to turn them back...

[donpepot]

hope there's a topic named as what NOT to do when HE dumps you or what to DO when HE dumps you. any advices for the girls. anyone

 

actually i read some threads that girls says that it work to them too..

[d0npep0t]

hope there's a topic named as what NOT to do when HE dumps you or what to DO when HE dumps you. any advices for the girls. anyone

actually i read some threads that some girls says that it work to them too..

[thekhris]

hope there's a topic named as what NOT to do when HE dumps you or what to DO when HE dumps you. any advices for the girls. anyone

yah mee too..hope there also for the girls

[whir]

Hi all,

 

I thought such forums suck, but I found this thread and I think we can really help each other now.

 

Actually I don't feel like talking to anyone but:

 

INTELLIGENT guys who WILL NOT let her go in the long-term perspective because she plays/played a way too important role in their lives

 

So I don't mean all those who opt for "relax, find yourself another puxxy". Some of us represent a higher level than this.

 

I have done the things from the list and I don't think it was a mistake, I'm applying a very sophisticated strategy and I'd like to discuss such games with those interested. This thread contains a big deal of truth, but also a great amount of very mistaken generalizations.

 

The question is what tactics to apply in certain cases, as well in mine as in yours. There's a lot of customization needed here. But it is true that girls would organize a mass protest against what we're saying here.

 

ok give us an example

[luvtoto]

Just gonna jump in here...

 

This happened to me this weekend when I dumped a guy that I was going to meet. I got the creepies from him while getting to know him on the phone.

 

He called and left loooong stalker messages on my phone for a couple days after I dumped him, stating that he is indeed not codependent!

 

Oh good grief.

[whir]

Just gonna jump in here...

 

This happened to me this weekend when I dumped a guy that I was going to meet. I got the creepies from him while getting to know him on the phone.

 

He called and left loooong stalker messages on my phone for a couple days after I dumped him, stating that he is indeed not codependent!

 

Oh good grief.

and look very desperate which is a big turn off to girls right?

[luvtoto]

and look very desperate which is a big turn off to girls right?

Oh my gosh, yes! D-E-S-P-E-R-A-T-E! Huge turn-off.

 

After the first stupid message, (I swear he was on the verge of crying), I just deleted his messages without listening to them.

[whir]

lolz..most guys has been bombarded with hollywood movies.like love at first sight..I have friend who suddenly approach a girl say romantic things in a instant even though he dosnt know her ... say he wants to marry her and cant explain waht he is feeling but he sodenly in love or what...

 

man it will be a cool scene from the movie if the girl accept her or what but the reality is..the girl just left and just dont care wht he just said..

[KNE10]

lolz..when my ex broke up with me..i did 1,2,3,4,5,6,7 and 10...lolz...but i win her back...

 

Was she seeing anyone when you were apart?

[luvtoto]

I have friend who suddenly approach a girl say romantic things in a instant even though he dosnt know her ... say he wants to marry her and cant explain what he is feeling but he suddenly in love or what...

Most women can see right through that. I know I can, at least.

 

Men, don't do that.

[thekhris]

Was she seeing anyone when you were apart?

......yep!

[alamalmo]

hi donepepot...every point u have made here, is really worth millions of dollars...but i am too late to read it...

.......................it started with a phone call when i proposed her which she accepted...we had our first date..only for 5 mins...she was happy to meet me n i could read love for me on her face,however she did'nt say it in words...then after 2 days she left this city to her native place n started her internship there...we continued talking to each other on phone n sending text messages..within 2 weeks i was totally dipped in her love...but perhaps distance n time factors soon started working on her n her interest for me started to decline...but i loved her too much n i made her the center of my world...once when she tried to leave me off saying she never loved me n was initially attracted n no more.....i was so dump n gone so deep in her love that i begged her to be in touch at least as a friend so that i dont get immediate shock n after my exams,i'll myself say her goodbye, which she agreed for n keep talking to me on phone...once i cried b4 her which perhaps touched her a little but for not more than a day or a night i think....then came the real hard time for me...she got in love with someone else n told me that he does not want her to talk to anybody n she can't talk to me anymore...but even then i asked her...plz dont leave me..it will kill me...but she said that my calls now irritates her...then i called her cousin who said that she fully supports me n that her cousin has played with my heart....when she said that u dont call her, i stopped calling her....

...after 2 weeks i got a call from my ex....she said that plz forgive me if i had done something wrong with u...i kept quiet n didnt answer...then i discussed with my friend...he said that it may be her try to come back to u...after wait of 2 days, i called her n said that i still love her n could not forget her even by a little...she said that she was busy n will talk later...after some days i again called her...she said that..."i never loved u n used to talk to u only as a freind...don't u remember , how much time u compelled me to talk to you..."...she was in very angry mood n clearly said to me...that she dont wanna keep any relationship with me...i tried calling her 2 more times but always she did not want to talk...."...now i dont call her anymore...but i sometimes talk to her cousin who tells me what is going on there....!!!

friends...i made almost all the mistakes which done has described above....can u tell me why she rejected me?...n is there any chance that she comes back?...can i do something as her cousin is always ready to help me?...can her views be changed...i still love her n want her back...may be it seems like expecting a miracle...but plz if u have any tips for me...plz help me...!!!or at least tell me how to get over this breakup...my heart always keep crying!!!