ConfusedGal Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 For those who have followed my previous posts...I felt terrible cause my husband came home really upset yesterday... His boss offered him the promotion the day before and yesterday told him there may be no opening here at all!!! (SUch corporate bull!) His boss will find out in two weeks or so if there is even an opening...HOWEVER, there are many openings for managers in their midwest office... (We live on the east coast...) Previously, my husband turned down a position in their midwest office citnig personal family reasons at the time, cause my job situation didnt look too bright there...I really regretted us turning that down later on, cause I got calls for 4 great interviews! Anyways, he doesnt want to ask his boss about the positions in the midwest until it is confirmed there is nothing here, cause that would just look really bad... Its terrible cause I felt really bad to see him so upset...I did...But yet, I felt a tiny spark of hope for me...A tiny spark that me MIGHT have a shot at moving...Is that so awful?? I just felt, wow, it might be another opportunity to move out to the midwest which we regretted turning down the first time... I feel so bad being slightly hopeful at his misery...I mean, dont get me wrong. I WANT him to get that management position. Either here or there. He deserves it and he should get. If its here, then I will still be very happy for him, and will just try to make my life better. But it is a very strange turn of events... And I feel bad for him cause he is on a roller coaster. So he asked me "Would you want to go to the midwest?" and in my heart I wanted to say YES YES YES! BUt I did not. I looked at him and said "Honey, this is YOUR choice. See what is better for YOUR career. See how this plays out, and whatever happens I support you, whether its here or there." I was proud of myself. I didnt want to push or pull him either way. (I pushed him too hard last time and it resulted in a big mess he had to deal with at work...I still feel awful about that!) I think he has enough to worry about at work without me pushing him. Normally I would have said "YES!!! LETS GOOOO!" BUt I didnt. I thought of HIM first, and I am proud of myself cause I DO love him so much and want him to be happy. BUt I cant help but feel slightly guilty...Did I "wish him" into this situation by consistently hoping we might be able to move? Sounds crazy but... Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 That sounds great CG. I hope it pans out for you to move! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ConfusedGal Posted June 12, 2006 Author Share Posted June 12, 2006 Hi, Yeah, so chatted with my husband this weekend and tried to get his feedback on the situation. He said he would find out in a couple weeks and if the position doesnt work here he may approach them regarding the midwest open positions...I have not pushed anything. I have just said "Lets see how it all plays out." So I am starting to think, is it better to stay here for like 1-2 years, invest in property etc and keep making the money we are making, and THEN in a year or two move out to CA like I have always wanted to do?? Or if the opportunity comes up, move to the midwest and be there for a few years?? I dont know. I always get so confused about these decisions. I mean, I KNOW I want to try living somewhere else. I just dont know if its the midwest... I kind of wanted to be somewhere warm eventually... Anyways, better to wait and see what happens I suppose... Link to post Share on other sites
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