Andrea Posted September 24, 1999 Share Posted September 24, 1999 I just started seeing my ex boyfriend again of 1 1/2 yrs. I know he was always faithful and never lied but, when I confronted him about dating again(slowly-not getting into a heavy relationship immediately but, starting over)I told him I could only do it if we didn't date other people. I figured it would just be a waste of time trying to work it out if we are with others. After some uncertainty, he agreed. I caught him with a hicky a week later and made him fess up. He said he is dating others but nothing serious or intimate. He is enjoying being single but wants to take it slow and if things work out with us, we will get back together. He said I pressured him into the decision because it was all or nothing. Now I heard from someone he is sleeping around and he denies it to me. I don't know what to believe or why if it is true, he would lie since I told him I would respect the blunt honest truth. Why after so long would he lie now and am I wasting my time or should I see him casually as a friend? Link to post Share on other sites
Billy Posted September 24, 1999 Share Posted September 24, 1999 I just started seeing my ex boyfriend again of 1 1/2 yrs. I know he was always faithful and never lied but, when I confronted him about dating again(slowly-not getting into a heavy relationship immediately but, starting over)I told him I could only do it if we didn't date other people. I figured it would just be a waste of time trying to work it out if we are with others. After some uncertainty, he agreed. I caught him with a hicky a week later and made him fess up. He said he is dating others but nothing serious or intimate. He is enjoying being single but wants to take it slow and if things work out with us, we will get back together. He said I pressured him into the decision because it was all or nothing. Now I heard from someone he is sleeping around and he denies it to me. I don't know what to believe or why if it is true, he would lie since I told him I would respect the blunt honest truth. Why after so long would he lie now and am I wasting my time or should I see him casually as a friend? No! You are not overreacting. If you told him that you wanted to try an work things out, and then found a hicky on his neck. I would say that he is not to excited about getting serious again. He wants to mess around right now. I think you should just forget about him. If he actually cares about you he will come back. Don't let yourself be played just because you have history with this guy! Link to post Share on other sites
Andrea Posted September 24, 1999 Share Posted September 24, 1999 Thanks for the advice. No! You are not overreacting. If you told him that you wanted to try an work things out, and then found a hicky on his neck. I would say that he is not to excited about getting serious again. He wants to mess around right now. I think you should just forget about him. If he actually cares about you he will come back. Don't let yourself be played just because you have history with this guy! Link to post Share on other sites
danny Posted September 24, 1999 Share Posted September 24, 1999 dump him!!! because if your relationship turns into marriage he will allways be unfaithful to you, because in his mind he knows he will be able to do it again and you will forgive him. if he done it once he will do it again. believe me i have done it to my girlfriend twice. and i find myself looking to do it again. really, what am i looking for??? there is a lot of oppurnity out there. just go out there and don't look for it. it will hit you like a freight train. trust me!!!!. but it's your decision, if you really think you can change someone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Andrea Posted September 24, 1999 Share Posted September 24, 1999 The only thing is, we aren't officially together and I know he has always been faithful. My intuition has been pretty on the nose and I practically lived with him. I answered the phone, etc. I mean we did have an agreement though and it feels like he cheated. I don't know if I can really say that he is a cheater. He doesn't have a history of doing that with anyone else either. He has just never truely been single I don't think and is enjoying it. Yet, he says he doesn't want to totally lose me. Things were fine up until I confronted where we stood, now he is stand-offish. What is making you cheat? Is there some part of the relationship that just doesn't satisfy you? I would think there has to be something you are looking for subconciously and don't realize it. Do you have any concience at all when doing such things? I would think if you truely love someone, you would avoid putting yourself in those situations. I just can't understand the whole cheating thing since I have always been faithful. dump him!!! because if your relationship turns into marriage he will allways be unfaithful to you, because in his mind he knows he will be able to do it again and you will forgive him. if he done it once he will do it again. believe me i have done it to my girlfriend twice. and i find myself looking to do it again. really, what am i looking for??? there is a lot of oppurnity out there. just go out there and don't look for it. it will hit you like a freight train. trust me!!!!. but it's your decision, if you really think you can change someone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
sylvester Posted October 13, 1999 Share Posted October 13, 1999 i totally agree, U are not overreacting, one advice FORGET THAT SUCKER!! It isn't worth getting upset over such a guy at all. So what he had been nice to U before? Times change, people change. Pointless holding on to the relation-ship. If you feel hurt upon knowing that he is seeing another gal, U haven't got over,lest to talk abt treating him like a causal friend. U still have many plenty chances meeting someone worth, get it over and start your life afresh. It's bitter, but time heals the wound.. Believe in yourself that you can do it and U will. no one can help U more than U can help yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
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