Guest Posted June 9, 2006 Share Posted June 9, 2006 I was underemployed for some time after quitting due to harassment in the workplace. A brother makes 18 per hour twice as much as I make hourly. Should the total house bill (mortgage, computer, garbage, utilities, groceries, water) be split evenly or proportionately? Once I was working when this same brother was unemployed and I would buy him things and would not collect his full share or "tab" him into debt, the way he is doing to me. Also, The house belonging to our dad who lives away (mom passed years ago) was recently refinanced by our father and some of the money was used to "transfer" my debt to this one brother onto the refinancing account/my dad. Which my brother is still keeping in track of and sends me periodic statements of debt. He does the accounting for the family and our dad gave him power of attorney and access to the refi account. I never see the actual bills that I'm paying for or being charged for. The chores are not evenly divided. I do much more, in my opinion because my chores which are cooking, grocery shopping, and kitchen clean are DAILY tasks and I also do more general housecleaning plus this one brother never cleans the bathroom. He is not willing to let my housework be used to relieve my debt (used to credit towards the money I owe) and argues (we have gotten into screaming fights whenever I've brought this up in the past) that his chores count as much because they are as time consuming. His chores: driving me to the get groceries and when needed rides to and from work, occassional errands. His other "tasks": computer repair when it's d own (he hasn't done this in a long, long time and I don't use the home computers that much (I'm at the library now), also running errands to pay bills, and accounting. I want as many opinions on this as possible to get outside feedback because I have big anger issues towards this brother on account of I wouldn't treat him the way he's treated me now, if things were reversed. Link to post Share on other sites
simplybrill Posted June 20, 2006 Share Posted June 20, 2006 Im in a similar situation, with my sibling. My sibling makes more money than I do. I took a pay cut and had to get another job because the job I was working when we first started to live together ended up being horrible and I had to quit it. Basically my boss was a royal jerk. So now I make about $8/hr and Im in school full time. My sibling, is about to finish their masters degree, which involves night classes and leaves their day free to work FULL TIME. I get "tabbed" on bills, and I recently paid my credit card, and visa bill...and my sibling is already all over me, saying its not fair of me to ask them to please wait until the end of the week, when I get paid- to pay them my half for the bills, because they have their own bills to pay as well... Bills are split down the middle, even though my sibling makes more money...because from what Ive been told, because their car payment is more, etc...we end up taking home about the same at the end of the day. I never see the bills either, but I have to "trust" that the amount that I'm being asked to pay is exactly half. I just dont think its fair, I dont make as much money, dont have as much time to WORK, if I want to graduate with a decent GPA, and Im still expected to pay half the bills right down the middle! It should be said that my sibling was a genius in school and worked 3 jobs, I guess Im expected to do the same. Im currently looking for a job that pays more, and will work with my school schedule. The more I look, the more that seems like a contradiction. Link to post Share on other sites
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